The VEB Review — everyone is entitled to my opinion.
For the entire life of my blog, I have struggled to post once a week… my anxiety about hitting publish on anything less than rocket science is severe.
But I have to let this anxiety go because THIS IS NOT THE NEW YORKER.
If you were confused, feel free to excuse yourself.
Today I am going to air out some random facets of my brain… If this sounds boring, go read my post about repurposed kitchen island inspiration, or Pilar Guzman’s kitchen… OR go tour this restored Philadelphia mansion.
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Even though this is my blog, and I decide when I show up, and what I say when I do… there is an awareness of the scrutiny-of-strangers, and the impossibility-of-pleasing-everyone, and the fear of inadvertently making an ass of myself through some gross failure of judgment (or just my general personality), and most of all the commandment that I NEVER BORE YOU.
Combine this with the fleeting-attention-span-of-the-internet… and also the occasional unhappiness of people who don’t like what I’ve written/feel I have failed them personally/and apparently have had an entire lifetime where everything they have ever encountered has been made specifically for their enjoyment, and my blog is their first experience otherwise.
All of this can feel complicated. Like the dance of the seven veils… but with the added requirement that I pay website-hosting fees and hope that you will follow me on Facebook and vote that you like me on Instagram… because what I write doesn’t actually matter if no one validates me in the most impersonal way possible.
The feeling of finding something special: you. A community of people who share my love of the absurd and Giant Fancy Things… has sort of left me paralyzed to NOT DISAPPOINT YOU.
Which has turned into rigidity against trying anything new. And let me tell you something— I AM AWESOME AT RIGIDITY.
Inflexibility is my happy place!
But I guess I’ve finally gained some clarity about the fact that I write free content on the internet along with 37 million other blogs… and that my that failure to write EXACTLY what every single person is expecting is not equivalent to a huge catastrophe.
It took me a while to realize this, because you people are, without exaggeration, the very best thing that has ever happened to me… even the ones who don’t like me are doing me the accidental favor of allowing me to align my Self with Oscar Wilde… Self is pleased!
Anyway. All of this is to say that once in a while, I’d like to write about some things that are frivolous/interesting/time wasting/funny/important to me, but might not be utterly absorbing to you… I would love if you would hang in here with me while I add an occasional tangent to my general rotation.
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What I’m reading:
Some Luck, Jane Smiley: the first book in a trilogy that tells the history of the last 100 years in America, through a “typical” American family… it begins in 1920, and each chapter equals one year, through 1950… I really loved it and went on to the two sequels: Early Warning, and Golden Age. Neither of which were nearly as good as the first; I barely made it through the last out of respect for the scope of the project.
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What I’m watching:
Catastrophe, a UK series… The duo who play the main characters also wrote the show which is the sort of thing I really enjoy. I thought was snappy, light, fast, and tightly written… And also full of profanity, and, uh, more profanity. So, if that’s not your thing, skip it.
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Now for the exciting part where maybe I alienate you!!
WELCOME TO MY SOAP BOX: cat lady edition.
Recently I spent a lot of time standing out in front of the stadium in Philadelphia, thinking about the ways I have cheated my own belief system.
I have actively avoided sharing here, the thing that is most important to me; because your validation and enjoyment of my blog feels good and that is hard to gamble with.
But it is time for me to be the change I wish to see in the world– people saying loudly and unapologetically:
1. Animal suffering is evil.
2. WE CAN MAKE A DIFFERENCE.
What I’m doing: protesting animals in circuses.… SO MANY countries have banned animals in circuses, but the United States continues to allow it!
Here is a great article by the Humane Society that offers a concise overview of the realities of circus animal life. (There are NO images, graphic or otherwise, so please read and share it!!)
— Did you know that circus animals spend, on average, over 90% of their lives in chains or cages? Ringling’s own records show that animals can be chained for up to 60 to 100 hours straight. — Humane Society, Join The No Circus Movement
Knowing the sad lives these wild cats are living makes me want to curl up in a ball. OR set someone on fire… The middle ground is raising awareness that these animals are CAGED FOR LIFE… (if you are a rabid cat lady like me, here is a good article dedicated to wild cats in the circus.)
And it’s not just Ringling! There are SO MANY smaller circuses! Here is a list of the top EIGHT circuses; they have ALL been cited for animal welfare violations… regulations that are impossible to enforce, and nearly meaningless.
Circus animals LIVE in small, filthy travel cages with only enough room to stand and turn around… no matter freezing cold or sweltering heat, without regard for their basic care.
We can make a difference simply by SHARING information and encouraging people to NOT support circuses or any other “entertainment” that uses animals: severely emaciated tigers perform at state fairs, gas stations that double as road side tiger attractions, and this HS football team whose mascot is a LIVE baby tiger… every year they buy a new baby tiger. What happens to the old baby? Nothing good.
This is not a life for any living being.
How to make a difference:
- SPEAK OUT! Be a voice for animals! Tell your friends and use social media to SHARE INFORMATION!
- Read and sign petitions… it really does make a difference. *see below… (here are a few to start: petition Congress: End Wild Animals in Circuses, ask Ringling to retire all animals, petition to end HS mascot cub tradition)
- If the circus is coming to your town: start a conversation on your town’s social media pages. Comment on the circus’s facebook page asking them to stop using animals and send them to accredited sanctuaries!
- Write or tweet to the circus’s sponsors.
- Find a protest. (Philadelphia has TWO more circuses just in May! Protest here and here)
- Organize a protest.
- Write to your representatives to tell them you want them to ban circuses with animals in your county and state! Some cities like SanFrancisco have passed a ban… a proposed bill in PA, still has not passed.
- Tweet to @NicoleFeld —executive vice president of Ringling’s parent company—tell her you don’t think animal abuse is entertainment! Urge Ringling to take ALL the animals off the road and send them to TRUE sanctuaries.
*Ringling is planning to phase out elephant performances, due to public outcry, BUT NOT THE CAT AND OTHER ANIMAL PERFORMANCES.
Ok. I guess you got my point… if you’re still here, THANK YOU for reading. I know that it is painful to witness the suffering of animals, but if we don’t, WHO WILL?
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Elvis update.
Two Sundays ago, Elvis had her first hospice appointment. Her regular vet does not do in-home care and recommended someone who does nothing else.
When the time comes, I want Elvis to be put to sleep at home… and I want her to be comfortable with the person who does it. This is hard, because Elvis really hates new people. My plan is to get her acclimated beforehand.
Since the appointment, I’ve been two things: relived that I really liked the vet. And so, so, so smacked in the face with reality.
But she is still hanging in there! (Much to the surprise of all the doctors she has seen.) But she LOOKS better than she is… her fur is amazing, and she is still eating well and has not lost weight. Actually, she is a real pudgekins now– the steroids are making her chow down.
Paul says she is past the young-GI-Elvis phase, and is now in the too-many-pills-and-fried-peanut-butter-and-banana-sandwich phase of life.
Ok. That’s it… abrupt end. I am still working on the Arkansas GFT. When I have an update, you’ll be the first to know!
March 15, 2016 @ 12:33 pm
Wow – way too much unconditional love, here!
March 15, 2016 @ 12:33 pm
VEB, we love you no matter what. You don’t have to impress us with a new GFT every week. You’ve got us, I always post your blog on my business facebook page.
Hugs to Elvis
March 15, 2016 @ 12:34 pm
I follow your blog because you are such a great writer. Also mad and adorable. I’ve been vegan 38 years and used to protest outside UK circus tents, hand out leaflets etc. It was scary because the workers there were vile and violent. Anyone thinking about veganity could visit “vegan outreach” website. Or try being vegan one day a month or whatever.
And for the curious, no, my husband isn’t vegan/vegetarian but is very against cruelty to animals.
give peas a chance ♥
March 15, 2016 @ 12:34 pm
Any insecurity over disappointing readers is unnecessary. I hang on your every word because I respect the craft and sincerity of your writing…..which plain old delights. Period.
March 15, 2016 @ 12:37 pm
If you read your grocery list, I would still be thrilled and want to read every word of it. Out of all the blogs I follow (A LOT), yours is my favorite.
March 15, 2016 @ 12:39 pm
I always smile when I see an email announcing another column, because I know that you will have written something interesting. Thank you for this, a lovely way to start my day. As to the animal circuses, good for you!
March 15, 2016 @ 12:43 pm
It’s all good…. whatever you are kind enough to share with us is absolute perfection.
March 15, 2016 @ 12:46 pm
“THIS IS NOT THE NEW YORKER.
If you were confused, feel free to excuse yourself.”
Statements like this make me proud to know who you are.
They also make me laugh sweet tea out my nose.
March 15, 2016 @ 12:49 pm
Thank you for being your authentic self with us and sharing your passion about saving circus animals. I share your concern and appreciate the nudge to speak out.
I feel compelled to share as you put yourself out there! I foster greyhounds when they come off the track. It is actually a joyful thing I do as I get to introduce them to the good life and show them that retirement is safe and glorious. It is true that some of them come to us with broken legs that were not treated and the onset of arthritis from being athletes, but I’m lucky. I get to be the one that makes them feel loved and gets rid of their pain. I get to do something positive. Those people who don’t do that for animals are the ones missing out on the beautiful relationships and love that gets poured our way.
Thanks VEB! Can’t wait to see the GFT from Arkansas. I am getting genuinely curious to see it!
March 15, 2016 @ 12:53 pm
Be VEB and follow your heart. I’ll still be here and I’ll still be listening.
March 15, 2016 @ 12:57 pm
Just keep writing!!!!! I love your blog and share it with many friends. You are so fresh, articulate and funny — what’s not to share and enjoy!!!!
March 15, 2016 @ 1:02 pm
Okay so my ADHD mind being what it is I went on the first link you post, the Philly remodeled AMAZING house…and I have one thing to say
THAT FRONT DOOR/ENTRANCE!!!!!!! I died a little! So much wonderfulness and you haven’t even entered the house!!!! *Swoon*
I would kill for that entry way!
Maddie
March 15, 2016 @ 1:02 pm
YOU ARE TOTALLY AWESOME AND WE LOVE YOU THE WAY YOU ARE
We are happy to devour everything and anything you write
We totally agree with you on above post
I personally love knowing what people I love read…. Only, I read mostly UK authors because my knowledge and access to American writers is rather limited. I do however know Smiley and have read at least 3 books by her. And yes, I love her writing.
Incidentally, have just finished (and passed on) a book about 3 immigrants desperately wanting to have a new life as Americans – but I can’t for the life of me now think of its title – passionate, sad, and gave me reason to be so thankful for ‘belonging’ somewhere I’m allowed to really ‘live’….
You see, you’re not only amusing, hilarious, you stir things also on a deeper level – and the fact – that I myself don’t hanker any longer for GFTs does nothing to diminuish my immense joy of following your treasure hunting and the empty feeling in my stomach reading about Elvis’ slow demise. In our hearts, we are all sisters and brothers, friends and amongst friends everyone is entitled to his/her opinion. I am often quite saddened at the hostile tone of some readers. Of course, we all don’t always agree with each other but the English (which I am not) have a wonderful quote for these occasions: We agree to disagree – point taken and let’s move on. I try not to comment in a negative way because it not only hurts the author but also backfires directly onto the person commenting – you share joy = joy doubled, you share sadness = sadness halved (or similar!)
Swiss love and greetings from France, Kik
March 15, 2016 @ 1:14 pm
GFT Genuinely fantastically thankful to read your blog, today even more so.
March 15, 2016 @ 1:16 pm
This honesty makes me love you even more.
I, too, am a cat lady, and my heart has been breaking for you over the Elvis situation. I am glad you are in her life.
When I was a child, my aunt took me to a circus. I was devastated by the animals. Circuses are cruel and I will never go to another one. I am proud of you for actively protesting them. I saw a glimpse of your animal activism last post about the down, and I feel the same way – preach, sister!
March 15, 2016 @ 1:23 pm
Victoria, I love your posts! My favorites are probably when you and your husband are installing a new Big Fancy Thing, or picking one up, and you dance in the midst of the video. 🙂 Love those..
I love your sweet Elvis kitty. I have had a cat (or up to five cats) always since I was a very small girl. Right now I have precious Teddy, a grey tabby with gorgeous wide very black stripes tapering to spots on his white belly. I got him last year as a kitten, a few months after my sweet tuxedo cat Rosie died. It hurts me to see the big cats mistreated and in sad conditions, too, and you have inspired me to speak out and not be part of the problem through apathy. Keep up the good work.
March 15, 2016 @ 1:55 pm
All the distress of the big cats–and I agree it is horrible and hate to see big cats confined even to small areas in zoos, however well designed–was, I’m afraid, swallowed up by the sweet, pudgy face of Elvis and Paul’s hilarious observation about her growing embonpoint. So glad she is doing well and happy.
March 15, 2016 @ 1:56 pm
I forget how I stumbled across you (and yes, I probably stumbled…that’s just me!) but I am always entertained by your posts/facebook entries/instagram. You are perfectly you! 🙂 Keep at it, Victoria, I would miss you if you stopped sharing your wonderful world! I’m sorry about your Elvis advancing to the banana-peanut butter sandwich phase…if only those we love could live forever.
March 15, 2016 @ 1:57 pm
Feel free to write whatever you want, this is your blog and I’m guessing we will want to read anyband all of it. And if anyone doesn’t like it? Well, who needs friends like that anyway! I think it’s great that you’re advocating for circus animals! You just keep doing you girl!
March 15, 2016 @ 2:00 pm
I’m right there with you! Decor wise or finally stopping animal abuse, keep up the excellent work!