The VEB Review — everyone is entitled to my opinion.
For the entire life of my blog, I have struggled to post once a week… my anxiety about hitting publish on anything less than rocket science is severe.
But I have to let this anxiety go because THIS IS NOT THE NEW YORKER.
If you were confused, feel free to excuse yourself.
Today I am going to air out some random facets of my brain… If this sounds boring, go read my post about repurposed kitchen island inspiration, or Pilar Guzman’s kitchen… OR go tour this restored Philadelphia mansion.
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Even though this is my blog, and I decide when I show up, and what I say when I do… there is an awareness of the scrutiny-of-strangers, and the impossibility-of-pleasing-everyone, and the fear of inadvertently making an ass of myself through some gross failure of judgment (or just my general personality), and most of all the commandment that I NEVER BORE YOU.
Combine this with the fleeting-attention-span-of-the-internet… and also the occasional unhappiness of people who don’t like what I’ve written/feel I have failed them personally/and apparently have had an entire lifetime where everything they have ever encountered has been made specifically for their enjoyment, and my blog is their first experience otherwise.
All of this can feel complicated. Like the dance of the seven veils… but with the added requirement that I pay website-hosting fees and hope that you will follow me on Facebook and vote that you like me on Instagram… because what I write doesn’t actually matter if no one validates me in the most impersonal way possible.
The feeling of finding something special: you. A community of people who share my love of the absurd and Giant Fancy Things… has sort of left me paralyzed to NOT DISAPPOINT YOU.
Which has turned into rigidity against trying anything new. And let me tell you something— I AM AWESOME AT RIGIDITY.
Inflexibility is my happy place!
But I guess I’ve finally gained some clarity about the fact that I write free content on the internet along with 37 million other blogs… and that my that failure to write EXACTLY what every single person is expecting is not equivalent to a huge catastrophe.
It took me a while to realize this, because you people are, without exaggeration, the very best thing that has ever happened to me… even the ones who don’t like me are doing me the accidental favor of allowing me to align my Self with Oscar Wilde… Self is pleased!
Anyway. All of this is to say that once in a while, I’d like to write about some things that are frivolous/interesting/time wasting/funny/important to me, but might not be utterly absorbing to you… I would love if you would hang in here with me while I add an occasional tangent to my general rotation.
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What I’m reading:
Some Luck, Jane Smiley: the first book in a trilogy that tells the history of the last 100 years in America, through a “typical” American family… it begins in 1920, and each chapter equals one year, through 1950… I really loved it and went on to the two sequels: Early Warning, and Golden Age. Neither of which were nearly as good as the first; I barely made it through the last out of respect for the scope of the project.
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What I’m watching:
Catastrophe, a UK series… The duo who play the main characters also wrote the show which is the sort of thing I really enjoy. I thought was snappy, light, fast, and tightly written… And also full of profanity, and, uh, more profanity. So, if that’s not your thing, skip it.
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Now for the exciting part where maybe I alienate you!!
WELCOME TO MY SOAP BOX: cat lady edition.
Recently I spent a lot of time standing out in front of the stadium in Philadelphia, thinking about the ways I have cheated my own belief system.
I have actively avoided sharing here, the thing that is most important to me; because your validation and enjoyment of my blog feels good and that is hard to gamble with.
But it is time for me to be the change I wish to see in the world– people saying loudly and unapologetically:
1. Animal suffering is evil.
2. WE CAN MAKE A DIFFERENCE.
What I’m doing: protesting animals in circuses.… SO MANY countries have banned animals in circuses, but the United States continues to allow it!
Here is a great article by the Humane Society that offers a concise overview of the realities of circus animal life. (There are NO images, graphic or otherwise, so please read and share it!!)
— Did you know that circus animals spend, on average, over 90% of their lives in chains or cages? Ringling’s own records show that animals can be chained for up to 60 to 100 hours straight. — Humane Society, Join The No Circus Movement
Knowing the sad lives these wild cats are living makes me want to curl up in a ball. OR set someone on fire… The middle ground is raising awareness that these animals are CAGED FOR LIFE… (if you are a rabid cat lady like me, here is a good article dedicated to wild cats in the circus.)
And it’s not just Ringling! There are SO MANY smaller circuses! Here is a list of the top EIGHT circuses; they have ALL been cited for animal welfare violations… regulations that are impossible to enforce, and nearly meaningless.
Circus animals LIVE in small, filthy travel cages with only enough room to stand and turn around… no matter freezing cold or sweltering heat, without regard for their basic care.
We can make a difference simply by SHARING information and encouraging people to NOT support circuses or any other “entertainment” that uses animals: severely emaciated tigers perform at state fairs, gas stations that double as road side tiger attractions, and this HS football team whose mascot is a LIVE baby tiger… every year they buy a new baby tiger. What happens to the old baby? Nothing good.
This is not a life for any living being.
How to make a difference:
- SPEAK OUT! Be a voice for animals! Tell your friends and use social media to SHARE INFORMATION!
- Read and sign petitions… it really does make a difference. *see below… (here are a few to start: petition Congress: End Wild Animals in Circuses, ask Ringling to retire all animals, petition to end HS mascot cub tradition)
- If the circus is coming to your town: start a conversation on your town’s social media pages. Comment on the circus’s facebook page asking them to stop using animals and send them to accredited sanctuaries!
- Write or tweet to the circus’s sponsors.
- Find a protest. (Philadelphia has TWO more circuses just in May! Protest here and here)
- Organize a protest.
- Write to your representatives to tell them you want them to ban circuses with animals in your county and state! Some cities like SanFrancisco have passed a ban… a proposed bill in PA, still has not passed.
- Tweet to @NicoleFeld —executive vice president of Ringling’s parent company—tell her you don’t think animal abuse is entertainment! Urge Ringling to take ALL the animals off the road and send them to TRUE sanctuaries.
*Ringling is planning to phase out elephant performances, due to public outcry, BUT NOT THE CAT AND OTHER ANIMAL PERFORMANCES.
Ok. I guess you got my point… if you’re still here, THANK YOU for reading. I know that it is painful to witness the suffering of animals, but if we don’t, WHO WILL?
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Elvis update.
Two Sundays ago, Elvis had her first hospice appointment. Her regular vet does not do in-home care and recommended someone who does nothing else.
When the time comes, I want Elvis to be put to sleep at home… and I want her to be comfortable with the person who does it. This is hard, because Elvis really hates new people. My plan is to get her acclimated beforehand.
Since the appointment, I’ve been two things: relived that I really liked the vet. And so, so, so smacked in the face with reality.
But she is still hanging in there! (Much to the surprise of all the doctors she has seen.) But she LOOKS better than she is… her fur is amazing, and she is still eating well and has not lost weight. Actually, she is a real pudgekins now– the steroids are making her chow down.
Paul says she is past the young-GI-Elvis phase, and is now in the too-many-pills-and-fried-peanut-butter-and-banana-sandwich phase of life.
Ok. That’s it… abrupt end. I am still working on the Arkansas GFT. When I have an update, you’ll be the first to know!
March 15, 2016 @ 10:24 am
I love reading whatever you write….whenever you write it! Thank you!
March 15, 2016 @ 10:25 am
You are asdorable, witty and entertaining! I love your blog!
March 16, 2016 @ 1:36 am
I’m with Melanie. Completely entertaining and delightful. You have just made a really sad day for me, a whole lot more bearable. Bless you.
April 7, 2016 @ 7:28 am
Me three!
March 15, 2016 @ 10:27 am
Do you, babe! What keeps people reading is not just GFTs, (though those are awesome), but your commentary on life and POV…it’s fun, interesting and sometimes heartbreaking. It would suck if you were one dimensional. Think of how much more fun Martha became once she went to jail.
March 15, 2016 @ 4:11 pm
But VEB, dont go to jail, ok.
March 15, 2016 @ 7:46 pm
Protesting for the right reasons, just avoid the jailing thing, yes.
You’re not alone, you’re just the one putting it out there. And can we talk about the number of comments on this post? You’re an original, keep ’em coming!!
March 15, 2016 @ 10:29 am
I always read but don’t always agree….. so everyone has different opinions and how boring it would be if we all thought alike. Sheesh… some people do drive me crazy, but you aren’t one of them!!! Keep at it girl!!! Always remember, some of the people some of the time, but not all the people all of the time.
March 15, 2016 @ 10:30 am
Thank you for opening my eyes to the abuse circus animals endure. I had no idea but I will be protesting these events from now on. I’m glad that Elvis is doing well right now.
March 15, 2016 @ 10:31 am
OK, Victoria, so I don’t share ALL of your passions, but I love you anyway. You make me laugh, and sometimes cry. You make me feel like “I’m not alone out here”. Who could ask for more, eh?
March 15, 2016 @ 10:31 am
I love each and every one of your posts. Please don’t let the people that are unhappy with themselves give you pause for one moment. I hope for a miracle for Elvis. Keep up the great work and the many laughs VEB.
March 15, 2016 @ 10:32 am
You go! Love your charming, slightly nuts-in a good way, real, well-written, and intellectually curious posts.
March 15, 2016 @ 10:35 am
As a tiny blogger myself (actually immeasurable) it is difficult to post “enough”! I love that you post once a week and that your content is stellar. thanks for showing a little bit more of you in your passion for these animals. You are making a difference. Bless Elvis!
March 15, 2016 @ 10:36 am
Hi! Good for you getting your cause out there. We started boycotting American circuses many years ago after going when our kids were little. And we didn’t even need to see the cages…
March 15, 2016 @ 10:36 am
I love your posts. You are so funny! Your passion for antiques and what you go through to own them is so like me! I love your compliant husband too. You are lucky to have him as a support and he seems so patient with your passions. Elvis has entered my heart and I, too, want him comfortable. He has such a good home with you. I can’t wait to read about your big antique find. When I see your blog update on my email…I immediately go to read it. Thank you!
March 15, 2016 @ 10:36 am
Hello. I am loving being your friend. Come to Amarillo Texas where it is giant but not fancy.
March 15, 2016 @ 10:37 am
Write it and I’ll read it. You are adored.
March 15, 2016 @ 10:39 am
I love decorating. I love Craigslist. I love GFT’s. And I love your posts. But what I love most about your posts is your sense of humor and your writing style. I will continue to read your blog whatever your write on, not because I always agree with you or am entertained by what you say, but because I think I would like you in person. I don’t always agree with my BFF but I LOVE spending time with her. You’re kinda like that. Someone I choose to spend time with when possible ?
March 15, 2016 @ 10:40 am
I love you even more for speaking up about animal welfare 🙂 Rock on, girl!
March 15, 2016 @ 10:40 am
New to the blog, but I love it. And I love that you have arrived at the conclusion that you can write whatever you want on YOUR blog and if people don’t like it, they don’t have to read it. Keep on keeping on 🙂
March 15, 2016 @ 10:41 am
Love you even more if that is possible!
My motto: “Old houses, old furniture, old fashion values plus the love of our rescue and foster pets make our home.”
March 15, 2016 @ 10:42 am
Girllllllfrannnn, ditto on everything you wrote. I felt (and still do) the same way about the publish button. I recently sent out a survey to my subscribers and guess whaaaaaa? Audiences LOVE the variety. It’s like a surprise in their inbox. Keep doing what you are doing.
YOU DO YOU, best and you are rocking it.
Love ya,
Lynne xx
Design The Life You Want To Live
March 19, 2016 @ 11:08 am
I tried to visit your blog got a 404 error so maybe you could try again. On second thought-at my age deep thoughts are rare-I will try putting your name into address thing-y
March 15, 2016 @ 10:42 am
This blog post was like sitting down with you for a cup of coffee.
March 15, 2016 @ 10:43 am
Ok… once again you’ve done it to me. I love blogs but almost never comment and here I am, commenting on your blog for the 2ND time. 🙂 Everything you said about the additions to your blog are great – book reviews are fantastic (it’s often how I learn about something good!) and I think in general whatever you want to add that isn’t related to the house will be very fun to read. You’re great, so how could it not be! BUT, the really important thing that makes me write today, is for you standing up for the animals. You did it with the down couch and now for the circus animals! I love it!! It makes my little heart swell!!!! As an almost vegan and avid support of animal rights/welfare, I am so happy to see someone like you use your little corner of the world to make a difference. You go girl!! PS: I think of Elvis often and pray for your little family