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  1. Fereshteh Hashemi
    June 18, 2020 @ 1:54 pm

    Thank goodness you are okay and back! I was worried. These are crazy times and we need good folk like you to be okay!


    • Lee
      June 18, 2020 @ 9:06 pm

      I am tired of every newsletter/blog/business I am tied to sending me political messages – I can get that from other sites. I signed up to your e-news originally for images of sweet foster kitties and progress on your home reno. I need a break from the political crap, please revert to why I signed up with you in the first place. Some of us need a break from the messaging and want something pleasant to focus on instead.


      • Ann
        June 19, 2020 @ 12:23 am

        Dear Victoria Elizabeth Barnes. I am here for sweet foster kitties and progress on your amazing home and GFTs, and because you are kind, funny, and wise. I appreciate your outrage and your big heart. I found this post both angry and hopeful and I’m glad for it. Thank you.


      • Loren
        June 19, 2020 @ 1:18 am

        I’m sorry you think human lives is political crap. I’m sorry you think people showing empathy is political crap. May I suggest a bit of a re-education on what is political and what is not. Your lines are blurred. People are collectively horrified at the human suffering going on and you’re outraged at this? You want them to stop and start pandering to what YOU want which is sweet foster kittens and home reno’s. Ok Karen.


        • Casey
          June 19, 2020 @ 6:54 am

          +1 to Loren


          • Lisa Garber
            December 4, 2022 @ 6:56 am

            +2 to Loren


      • Linda
        June 19, 2020 @ 7:54 am

        You’re welcome to unsubscribe. VEB is allowed to produce whatever content she wants on a platform where you’re consuming that content for free.


        • Tracey Dewire
          June 19, 2020 @ 9:31 pm

          Yes! Thank you!!


        • Yvonne
          June 23, 2020 @ 10:20 am

          Amen! We all have our own reactions to the fact that issues we’re all facing in this new, strange world. If you can’t allow someone to express their feelings to on their OWN blog, then feel free to move on. You’re not paying for the pleasure of this site, so you are out nothing. You can disagree, but you can also be polite. Please do consider unsubscribing if you are looking for a fluff piece. I guarantee you won’t be missed.


          • Yvonne
            June 23, 2020 @ 10:24 am

            *omit “fact that”. That was auto type.


        • Linda
          June 30, 2020 @ 10:05 pm

          I am not sure if you were referring to me – I commented that I originally got in VEB’s blog because (up until a year ago) we owned a big Victorian house and I loved seeing what she and her husband were doing. Unfortunately, this time it turned into a political smear piece. Yes, I can and will unsubscribe but not before I say my piece. I find it amazing that there are those people that feel that their opinion on what is going on in this country is the “correct side”. I was flabbergasted at the woman that wrote basically that anyone that didn’t agree with her was on “the wrong side”!! The very height of narcissism! If anything the majority of the glowing responses to VEB’s divisive, hateful comments has proven to me once again that this is why this country is so divided. The comment about “slavery being only a minute ago” is so ridiculous – we fought a civil war, lost many white and black lives to rid the country of the scourge of slavery. I never owned a slave, my ancestors never did – none of us ever would. I am not a racist, I will not apologize for my non existent “white privilege”. I want a future for my kids and grandkids that is safe, happy and free of the nastiness, name calling and “wokeness”, cancel culture and political correctness that is bringing this country down to a level I never thought I would see in my lifetime. Everyone has rights in this country – Including the police and the few bad ones have nothing to do with the great majority of them. It is never a good idea to judge all for the sins of a few.


          • Christina
            August 2, 2020 @ 6:25 pm

            Yes Linda!


            • Debbie
              January 12, 2022 @ 12:54 pm

              Well said, Linda.

          • Cara
            October 15, 2020 @ 10:08 am

            I suggest everyone interested in the history of slavery read Thomas Sowell’s piece. It’s factual, researched and dispassionate. Sowell is black and a wonderful writer.


          • Ellyn Charap
            August 6, 2021 @ 6:33 pm

            Wow. I must say that I find it terrible, Linda, that you believe that any expression of anger over some Americans with dark skin being constantly treated badly – murdered on the street for having been suspected wrongly of exchanging a counterfeit $20, and being terrified to get into a police car, no less – as being “woke,” or a mere bit of “virtue signalling.”

            First, it’s interesting that it’s called “virtue signalling,” and “political correctness,” huh? Implies that maybe VEB’s beliefs are actually… virtuous. That is actually the interesting thing. You’re implying that she’s trying to get people to tell her how awesome she is and that she believes all the right things and should be supported, right? Well, you’re also implying that SHE BELIEVES THE RIGHT THINGS. There’s a reason Fox News doesn’t call it “Nastiness Signalling,” or “Political Wrongness.” They can’t. Because the beliefs we on the left support are, just as the semantics point out, morally correct. What YOU believe? As you imply by saying that you came here for the pretty houses and kitties, you believe in WHAT IS PLEASANT. And let me assure you, Linda, that which is morally correct is rarely pleasant. But Fox News is pleasant because the anchors encourage you to say and do personally pleasant things, and to say and do things with zero thought or virtue behind them. Isn’t it a relief to grouse and complain, and do and say whatever floats your boat, Linda? Even if it creates harm in the world? It feels GOOD for whites to say, “HE HAD A RECORD, GEORGE FLOYD HAD A RECORD!” It makes whites feel that the police are functioning as they should, that the world is knowable and like it was before all these black people started COMPLICATING it, and these brown people started coming here and doing things that are annoying to me.

            If that isn’t the definition of privilege – you have your own little news outlet that frames things up so they’re comfy and feel like America from 50 years ago, and let you be outraged that you can’t spend all day reading about old houses and kitty cats, and give you ways to put other people down for trying to point out that our country needs fixing? Wow. I don’t know what IS, Linda.

            That’s not a virtuous point of view, Linda. That’s just a comfy point of view. And in case you didn’t understand this, let me tell you: it is not OK for police to decide that someone’s life is worthless or that he should be harmed because he once stole something. You may already know that – I’m sure if your teenager got arrested for shoplifting and then, because s/he had a record, a policeman knelt on his or her neck for slightly over 9 minutes because s/he was DANGEROUS because s/he had a record, that you would be livid and in the streets protesting.

            Linda, let’s recap:

            – It is not the police’s job to be judges – that is why we have a court system.
            – It is not the police’s job to execute people – that is why we have a court system.
            – Your point of view is comfortable for you, not moral
            – People who “Virtue signal” are – surprise! – virtuous
            – “Political correctness” is actually moral correctness
            – You are pretty much a shit who likes the comfort of a discriminatory country because it means you don’t have to be morally aware, thoughtful, or kind, or involve yourself in any kind of justice movement because you want to look at old house renos and kitties ALL DAY LONG.
            – Fox News and the GOP and the media in general have literally given you words to denigrate moral actors. Niiiiiiice.- Fox News and the GOP and the media in general have literally given you words to denigrate moral actors, and you like using them because GRRR, ANGRY, you didn’t get your kitties and pretty house reno pictures for ONE DAY IN YOUR LIFE. Niiiiiiice.

            Linda, please. You privileged little sanctimonious pisspot. Go suck several eggs and then go explain to some Black people that you think it’s TOTES OK for George Floyd to have been killed over a not-counterfeit $20 and a very justifiable fear of going anywhere with police. Because he was a baddie once for a minor offense my kid might do too, but that’s OK because my kid is a GOOD kid with a bright FUTURE ahead, and BOOO, all Black people are just walking around with CHIPS on their shoulders and THEY’RE the privileged ones because GEE, WE CAN’T SAY THE “N” WORD and everyone KNOWS they’re all selling drugs and shooting each other anyway and THEY SAY BAD WORDS IN RAP! Feh to you, little privileged Linda.


      • Nina
        June 19, 2020 @ 1:00 pm

        Here, here. I also have seen enough deplorable human behavior that stands alone and is very plainly not, “Police rioting.” Is it brand new news to some ppl that Antifa is a menace? For one example. Compounded by meth/strung out wackos, paid “Never Trumpers” and others rampaging in Seattle… this is SO not about bad cops and equality for all. It is about ppl throwing responsibility to the wind. No one is protesting due to the history of enslaved Irish children … because they were white and it doesn’t fit the narrative. Best advice, turn off mainstream media.


        • Nina
          June 19, 2020 @ 1:18 pm

          Unable to edit original post, I will add “not about bad cops…any more” – of course, people should feel outrage at wrong things. Where would we be if we didn’t? But also two wrongs don’t make a right. Come to think of it, perhaps THIS is where we would be if ppl don’t distinguish between right and wrong. That now the seven plus ppl (who happen to be Black!!) killed by “peaceful protesters” are justified? Turn a blind eye to calling evil evil?

          I can’t stand this.


        • Linda
          June 29, 2020 @ 5:55 pm

          Nina – I can’t stand it either! God help this country! The desperation to appear “woke” and in touch with truth is destroying this country. The rage over a few bad cops leaves little room for the discussion about the criminality in this country. How is it possible to forget about the horrific crimes perpetrated by criminals, the rapes, the kidnapping, the murders and concentrate only on the few bad cops?


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      • AmyL
        June 19, 2020 @ 1:15 pm

        Poor, poor Lee. All that money you spent on this blog going to waste! And VEB strapping you to a chair, prying your eyelids open, Clockwork Orange style, and forcing you to read this blog. So unfair.

        oh, wait…

        That discomfort and anger you’re feeling is called cognitive dissonance. It’s when some tiny, smothered part of you understands that you too should be outraged and compassionate and fighting for justice. But instead, you rant, you deflect, you put your fingers in your ears and yell “la la la I can’t hear you!” all because you’re secretly terrified of the changing world around you.

        Stop listening to those that pander-for-profit to your fears and start paying attention to that barely alive voice inside you that knows what’s right and what’s wrong.


        • Limda
          July 1, 2020 @ 10:30 am

          So very typical – when anyone has a different opinion than you you attack them.


      • RRR
        June 20, 2020 @ 4:45 pm

        Her blog, her platform. Your blog, your platform for however sunshiny you need things to be.


      • Casandra K MacAlan
        June 28, 2020 @ 2:11 am

        You (person I don’t know in any way) need to be MOAR of what I WANT!! I follow you cuz.. (insert ways it meets my particular needs) and you are currently failing at that, but having opinions and thoughts that don’t parrot my own. You must stop and be only what I WANT you to be.. If course that will be hard, as you don’t really know me in any way..
        … Sarcastic rant over… Personal note : you have taught me a lot about what being a Vegan means (and I’ve given up meat, for a year now, and moving into full plant based) what being a compassionate, hysterical, loving, crazy and fun person means. Thank you for standing up and speaking out against these atrocious acts. I highly recommend the read : White Fragility, by Robin Diangelo. I thought I was Woke, but there is SO MUCH I didn’t even realize.
        Blessings and health to you and yours. Rock on!


      • Linda
        June 29, 2020 @ 5:38 pm

        Couldn’t agree more!!!


      • Caren
        July 1, 2020 @ 11:16 am

        Write your own blog, then, Lee.

        This is Victoria’s.


    • Andrea Ritcey
      June 20, 2020 @ 8:54 am

      Glad to see you are posting.


  2. Teresa A Young
    June 18, 2020 @ 1:55 pm

    VEB…so happy to hear from you..
    Missed your posts…yes…there are no words.😰 I’m grateful for you!
    Love and hugs😍
    Teresa Young
    A fan of yours


    • Deb
      June 18, 2020 @ 2:38 pm

      I hunger for distraction. I used to be a news junkie, a political junkie. No more though. My garden is beautiful at least. Be well.


  3. Teresa
    June 18, 2020 @ 1:56 pm

    Victoria, I’m so glad to see you posting again! We’re just hunkering down and trying to get through it. I would be embarrassed for you to know how much I want to see your kitchen. Good luck and stay healthy.


    • Karen Hantman
      July 8, 2020 @ 11:52 am

      +1 for Teresa.


  4. Deborah
    June 18, 2020 @ 1:56 pm

    You will probably catch sooooo much crap for the activism in this post, but I am personally so happy to see it, and it’s time to not be concerned about the opinions of those on the wrong side of right in this matter.
    We are at a moment for change in our society, government, and the world, and we must seize this moment!



    • Jennifer Marlowe
      June 18, 2020 @ 2:58 pm

      Well said. Please accept this internet high-five.


    • joanell connolly
      June 18, 2020 @ 4:43 pm

      thank you for returning – we are all hunkering in strange places. I have been obsessing with the hummingbird nest – beginning with eggs to flying away – but I am convinced the babies and mama are hanging out in back yard – I talk to them as I did while growing and they come visit – this I know for sure. So good to see your wild and crazy mind – said with love.


    • katrinaS
      June 18, 2020 @ 5:22 pm

      YES Deborah! Yes.. you can tell by reading through the lines of some of the comments. It must be nice to be able to toon out issues that doesn’t affect you (like the exhaustion of living with racism in every day life) it’s called Privilege


    • Helen
      June 19, 2020 @ 4:02 pm

      Love your Rage VEB!!! Thank you for your clarity and compassion and for letting us see what you are feeling. I was just thinking about you the other day and wondered where is that woman? out loud! Sending all commiseration- loved what you said about the Eagles thang too- as a Bucks County gal thinking all about that stupid episode is embarassing- how weird are Philly fans and yes, all that you said- totally agree. It is galvanizing to know there are so many of us thinking the same on all this. Casey + 2 to the very smart Loren. Lee, go get some rest and a pile of pot brownies. Be well until we hear from you again and cheers to the garden, kittens and the kitchen. Dying to see how its coming.


    • Tracey Dewire
      June 19, 2020 @ 9:32 pm

      Well said!!


    • Linda
      June 29, 2020 @ 5:42 pm

      I can’t help but wonder how you think YOU are on the the “right side”! I’m 71 years old and for the first time in my life I am terrified of where this country is headed if the left takes over. How sad that this site has turned political – I was interested in your home (having owned a victorian house for 41 years that we loved).


      • Trish
        July 7, 2020 @ 10:27 pm

        But you’re ok with the vile racist occupying the oval office who is destroying the country?


      • Finisterre
        September 11, 2020 @ 8:07 am

        —“I’m 71 years old and **for the first time in my life** I am terrified of where this country is headed”—

        That’ll be the “non-existent” white privilege you referred to upthread.

        —“political smear piece … divisive, hateful comments”—

        God, some Boomers are ignorant, spoilt brats. It’s the INGRATITUDE that gets me. Look at this terrible old toddler, complacently sure that ‘everyone has rights in this country’ despite clearly knowing sweet FA about other people’s experiences and fears. So incredibly pampered that she literally sees *acknowledgement of historical and present facts* as ‘hateful’.

        Absolutely obsessed with identity politics while professing to hate them. Absurd.


  5. Lisa A.
    June 18, 2020 @ 1:58 pm

    OMG – I was so worried about you …..


  6. Rosemary Olson
    June 18, 2020 @ 1:59 pm

    We missed you!! And missed all your Big, Beautiful things, all the craziness in acquiring them, placing them just right in your house, making us so happy to just tag along and enjoy the ride. Please, fill my inbox with wonderfulness. We could use the distraction.


  7. Kim
    June 18, 2020 @ 2:00 pm

    I have never liked you more than right now. This post.
    My rage has been sad, and lonely, but together with the rage of the necessary, things can change. Enough is enough.


    • Helen
      June 19, 2020 @ 4:05 pm

      Kim- you are so so right!!! I am with you on that for sure. The winds of change sometimes blow hard. We can and will do it


  8. Fred Wishnie
    June 18, 2020 @ 2:01 pm

    I was wondering what happened to you, glad to hear you are well. We could do with a little of your humor.


  9. cjkelly
    June 18, 2020 @ 2:02 pm

    Can I recommend another book that corrects some of the things that Shilts got wrong? Check out Richard McKay’s book Patient Zero and the Making of the AIDS Epidemic. Glad to hear your well and angry!


  10. emily
    June 18, 2020 @ 2:03 pm

    I have missed you and your honest and hilarious take on life and lifestyle, but also completely understand the-world-is-ending catatonia. Glad you’re back!


  11. Karen B.
    June 18, 2020 @ 2:04 pm

    I’m happy to hear your voice once more. Also, happy you and Paul are well. Kitchen and kitty updates would be welcome.


  12. Carolyn
    June 18, 2020 @ 2:05 pm

    Thank you for a thoughtful post.
    Could you possibly send a playlist of your wonderful music?!!


  13. Dana Starr
    June 18, 2020 @ 2:05 pm

    I liked you before the pandemic. I LOVE YOU now. Your words summed up my feelings exactly. Ellipses and semi-colons hurt my eyes; nevertheless, you’re one of my favorite writers.


  14. Judy Blachek
    June 18, 2020 @ 2:06 pm

    Just yesterday I went to this site to see if somehow I missed something. Glad you are back….and… I LOVE YOU! You are saying everything that I am feeling. Thank you for telling it like it is, even while I look forward to your posts about your house and garden.

    We simply MUST do better. Donate, support on social media, protest, and speak out. And lastly VOTE. We need people who value everyone in office from your city or town council, to your state legislatures and governors, and at the federal level.

    Welcome back.


  15. Chris Peterson
    June 18, 2020 @ 2:06 pm

    So very glad to know that you are still among the living, and still writing.


  16. Chelle Ellis
    June 18, 2020 @ 2:06 pm

    I love so much that you are vocal about your beliefs, it would be too easy to be a blogger without convictions. Please keep doing what you do.. and if you need a further distraction, make and submit a piece of art to our Nasty Women Memphis exhibit, happening this fall.


  17. B Wilson
    June 18, 2020 @ 2:07 pm

    I too worried…
    Thank you for posting.


  18. Lucille Harvey
    June 18, 2020 @ 2:07 pm

    You have been missed! Keep writing!


  19. Amy B.
    June 18, 2020 @ 2:10 pm

    So much rage. When I hear “but riots!” I just think, what do you want? Should they all call you “sir” and come to you hat in hand while they ask not to die at the hands of the people who claim to “serve and protect?”

    I’m glad to “see” your posts again. More rational people speaking up is always good.


  20. Lisa D.
    June 18, 2020 @ 2:10 pm

    I was missing your posts, and was actually about to email you. I’m glad you and Paul are ok. Very trying times, for sure. On the brighter side, your strawberries look divine. I think it’s helpful and healing to stay close to nature during times like these. Stay healthy and safe.


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