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  1. Sharon B
    June 20, 2023 @ 1:27 pm

    So sorry to hear about the loss of your brother. Condolences.


  2. Jennifer Shade
    June 20, 2023 @ 1:29 pm

    Oh the feeeeeeels! Thank you for this post. I hope it helps you as you are helping others in the same situation. I love the way you write and look forward to every one of your posts.


  3. Joann
    June 20, 2023 @ 1:33 pm

    I’m so sorry about your brother. It’ll take time. Good luck with finding new and simpler joy in your life.


  4. Jac
    June 20, 2023 @ 2:14 pm

    I’m so sorry for the loss of your brother.


  5. Patricia Getty
    June 20, 2023 @ 2:15 pm

    My sincere condolences on the loss of your brother.


  6. Janie
    June 20, 2023 @ 2:29 pm

    Adding my sincere condolences as well for your loss.


  7. Theresa
    June 20, 2023 @ 2:31 pm

    Hi Elizabeth. I am so sorry to hear about your brothers passing. Please accept my condolences. I too have lost my baby sister recently. She actually passed on her 51st birthday, while I held her. Even though we knew she was going to pass, it was still heart wrenching. She was my person and I miss her every day. One day I will finally cross that line of “collecting” and letting go. I do purge in spurts but I have to take the emotional part out of it and just….lot go.

    Thank you for sharing your story. Again, I’m so sorry.


  8. Zoe
    June 20, 2023 @ 2:40 pm

    Oh how I want to take your face in my hands and plant a giant squeaky playingwithalatexballoon sounding kiss on your forehead! You and your brain and heart are a true delight, informative, entertaining, thought provoking, and full of the wisdom of life. Condolences on the loss of your brother. I lost my mom in January and I, too, am discovering a life assessment avalanche beyond the Loss of a Loved One pain I expected. Peace


  9. Aileen
    June 20, 2023 @ 2:43 pm

    Sorry for your loss. You are much too young to be brotherless, so I prefer to think that he is still here, watching over you.

    I think you might have just changed my life. I am an Air Force Brat. For many of us brats, moving was a way of life when we grew up. I went to 9 different schools before I got to high school. Never got to keep much in the way of things–but oh the memories. Still, I have a problem. I know WHY I have a problem (see things above), but it’s still a problem. I like THINGS. Even if I am not using them now, I may need them again. That thing just needs a lick of paint, or a new purpose–must recycle you know! If I get rid of a thing, I will just have to go out and buy another thing so why don’t I do both–keep it and buy another.

    Comes down to the fear of making a mistake. Never looked at it like that before. Thanks Victoria, you just made a difference! And isn’t that what we all want?


  10. C
    June 20, 2023 @ 2:52 pm

    So nice to see a new post and so awful to read about your loss. Take every bit of healing any way you can.
    May peace find you!


  11. Char
    June 20, 2023 @ 3:31 pm

    I echo all the sentiments above…. We are all really more alike than different. Wishing you well on your journey and grateful you’re back🙏🏼💙🙏🏼.


  12. Peggy R
    June 20, 2023 @ 3:31 pm

    I am so very sorry to hear about your brother Matthew- it’s soul crushing to lose a loved one. Prayers and healing to you and your family dear VEB


  13. Patricia
    June 20, 2023 @ 3:58 pm

    I’m so very sorry to hear of your brother’s death. I think clearing things out is a healthy way to grieve. When my dad died, my 62 year old mother systematically took things out of each closet, painted the inside, put back in what she wanted to keep, and moved to the next closet. When they were all done she painted the ceilings in her home. Then she resumed the social life she gave up for the season of caring for my dying father. ♥️


  14. Joyce
    June 20, 2023 @ 4:13 pm

    So so very sorry to hear about your brother.
    Good for you in tackling something in your life that’s immensely difficult


  15. Edith
    June 20, 2023 @ 4:33 pm

    I figured something terrible had happened in your life when you were missing for so long. I’m so very sorry that your brother passed away. And I’m glad you’re back. I missed you!


  16. KC
    June 20, 2023 @ 4:44 pm

    First post I have received from you in a long time! So sorry about Matthew!
    In your writing, you seem very different. Still love you, but seems that you too are getting older thanks to “life.”


  17. Lori Zambrano
    June 20, 2023 @ 5:03 pm

    It was an immense pleasure to meet you today. I am sorry I did not know of your recent loss and I extend my heartfelt condolences to you and your family. I lost my only sibling in 2009 and the brother-shaped hole he left in my heart has gotten a bit smaller since then but will always be there. I wish you peace and healing.


  18. Gloria Speicher
    June 20, 2023 @ 5:45 pm

    You are speaking directly to me. thank you.


  19. Judy
    June 20, 2023 @ 6:03 pm

    I am keeping this – it made me realize why I have so much stuff. Stuff I don’t really care about, but might ‘need’ someday. Then the stuff some of which I love but so much of it inherited I feel I must keep for posterity. But if my siblings didn’t want it and my kids don’t want it all WHY am I surrounded with it? I started clearing my bedroom a few weeks ago but your post will remind me to keep going on room by room. My kids don’t need to deal with all this. I am so sorry about your brother, I can’t imagine your shock & grief.


  20. Amanda
    June 20, 2023 @ 6:27 pm

    I am incredibly sorry about your brother’s passing. May your good memories help comfort your heart as you grieve. Thank you for sharing so much of yourself with us.


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