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  1. Kristen
    June 20, 2023 @ 6:29 pm

    I’m so very, very sorry to hear of your brother’s passing. My SIL passed suddenly at the end of March and all my DIY projects and CL schemes, plots and machinations suddenly seemed so very… pointless. It really resets your orbit and galaxy of priorities to suddenly lose a loved one, a young loved one, a similarly-aged one. I hope you find some pockets of peace amid the grief. And minimalism can be just as beautiful as all the fancy giant things… I’m sure you will make it so.


  2. Eileen Thompson
    June 20, 2023 @ 6:31 pm

    I have missed you! Love your posts…love your taste in decor and of course…the cats. The dancing is also the BEST💖🍾🥂


  3. Diana D
    June 20, 2023 @ 6:44 pm

    So sorry to hear about your brother. I loved the story about the crazy hat or masks or something that you bought, I think for a road trip with him? Anyway, I laughed so hard, I ordered one for my son – he didn’t think it was nearly as funny as I did. Oh well.
    De-cluttering is soooo hard! I’ve been trying, but it’s a struggle. I’m 76, and I’m sure my kids don’t want even 1/10th of all this stuff!


  4. Joy
    June 20, 2023 @ 7:08 pm

    After losing myparents and cleaning out their house, I definitely look at STUFF differently. I have purged and decluttered, reaquired, purged some more, etc. Currently preparing for a major round (and hopefully final round) of decluttering. Your new kitchen is beautiful and simple and on the minimal side.

    P.S. in case you need it … The Internet hereby gives you permission to get rid of any and all Giant Fancy Things, including the Portal to Narnia. 😘


  5. Laurie (Lucy's mom)
    June 20, 2023 @ 7:17 pm

    Dear Victoria; I am so sorry about your brother’s passing. I do not have the words.

    I am also at the point that i need to declutter. You have expressed all the feelings that I also feel. I shall carry on revived. Laurie


  6. Sonya Neill
    June 20, 2023 @ 7:32 pm

    Wow. And this is why I love you, Victoria. I love your words. I love your thought process. I love my antiques and I have the need to save them. EVERY. ANTIQUE. I. COME . ACROSS. I too, have felt the loss of a sibling (3, to be exact) and my greatest loss, my beautiful boy, my grandson. I too, have come to realize I don’t need to hang on to every thing, to save every antique, to buy this to feel that. My heart is with you, and my unburdening is with you. We shall do it all, together, in like-mindedness. Peace be unto you.


  7. Martha Bradford
    June 20, 2023 @ 7:40 pm

    Thank you Times 1,000,000,000…etc. this is going on my refrigerator until I’m finished adhering to the plot, and then it will be the final thing to let go of.

    And I should have said first, I am so very sorry about the death of your brother. I imagine that was difficult to share. All the best to you and your family.


  8. Annette
    June 20, 2023 @ 8:06 pm

    So sorry for your loss. I know how you feel about decluttering. You have to wait for the right moment/state of mind and when it happens move quickly.


  9. Connie Clark
    June 20, 2023 @ 8:17 pm

    Long time follower and lover of your writing, first time commenter. I am so very happy to read your insightful words again, they always resonate. What a joy to see your name in my email list! My deepest sympathy on your loss, telepathic hug to you.


  10. Mary
    June 20, 2023 @ 8:21 pm

    Your brother. I am so sorry. So crushingly hard. 10 years ago I lost a son. It puts all things in perspective. All things.


  11. Amy Harsh
    June 20, 2023 @ 9:04 pm

    I’m sorry to hear of your brothers passing.


  12. Bronne
    June 20, 2023 @ 9:49 pm

    I’ve lost a brother. I’m estranged from another. My Dad is gone. Last summer a best friend to Covid. This past November, my mother.
    I’m still finding a new path.
    More treasure is not the answer. Maybe cleaning out MY closets would do it…


  13. Anon MD
    June 20, 2023 @ 9:57 pm

    I had to wear Forrest Gump shoes from birth until almost high school. I fell a lot. I fracture and injure often. I am a mutant. I was bullied and isolated, and left with a deep desire to wear shoes that looked vaguely like a girl might wear them. One day I finally located orthopedic shoes that were vaguely female looking, in my size, that I could walk in, because of the internet. I eventually bought quite a few. I couldn’t wear them long. Now I mostly can’t wear shoes at all. And if you buy shoes with a couple years on them and they are stored with a little humidity for years, the polyurethane heels will absolutely melt. Tears. This sounds so dumb, but it is helping me get past some of the issues you described. Stuff is stuff.

    Short version of this: my husband is a super collector. I like things extremely neat. I was so sorry to hear about your brother. I lost 3 family members over the past few years. I was responsible for my parents’ things. I helped with my grandmother’s. I have sorted two stepchildren’s things, one ex-wife (husband’s), and both deceased in-laws. I have sorted much of my husband’s things and my own and can’t stop him from adding more. You can’t help someone see what you’ve seen apparently.


  14. Rebecca
    June 20, 2023 @ 10:16 pm

    Wishing you a warm blanket of peace. I am so sorry to hear of Matthew’s passing. I have loved reading you since the beginning and especially the holiday shenanigans you and your brothers get into. The road of grief is winding but know you are in the thoughts of so many.


  15. Marilyn Newton
    June 20, 2023 @ 10:22 pm

    I love your blog posts! I check every day, yes every day to see if there is a new one. Obsessive? Maybe but I love them so much I don’t want to accidentally miss one.
    I live in Chattanooga, TN and believe me when I say, there is never anything remotely interesting on Craigslist. I constantly check for giant fancy things but I’m constantly
    I wanted to end by sending my condolences regarding the death of your brother. I know you were very close.



  16. Ann-Marie Lindner
    June 20, 2023 @ 10:42 pm

    Many blessings of comfort to you and your family.
    What ever you desire to do, it will be the perfect decision!


    • Ann-Marie Lindner
      June 20, 2023 @ 10:43 pm

      *what ever yo decide


    • Ann-Marie Lindner
      June 20, 2023 @ 10:44 pm

      *what ever you decide


  17. RAH
    June 20, 2023 @ 11:11 pm

    I offer you a hug, one frail human to another. Love hurts so terribly sometimes, but it is worth it all the time.
    I am glad you are hearing your own heart. You deserve to be free and fully yourself. Peace to you and your family.


  18. Tamara Dusenbury
    June 20, 2023 @ 11:48 pm

    Sending you much love and light to continue your journey.


  19. Michele Obarow
    June 20, 2023 @ 11:51 pm

    22 years ago we moved to Ohio. Had a good clear out then and I have continued since. Tim and I don’t want to leave our children with a nightmare of junk, some good, some not so much. So, their childhood thing are boxed, some given back to them. We have everything we need/want. Asked kids not to buy us gifts, that includes friends last year. This has been liberating and life changing on all levels.
    So very, very to read of your brother’s passing. People always trump stuff, I learned this late. You are in my prayers sweet lady. xoxo


  20. W
    June 21, 2023 @ 8:20 am

    I was driving to work this morning and there was a license plate, GFT 439, and my brain offered, GIANT FANCY THINGS! So funny your post was waiting here for me.
    I’m so sorry to hear about your brother.
    I’m so excited for your journey in minimalism. I’ve been on this path since 2015. I’m nowhere near done, but every step has been an education.


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