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  1. The Wedding Queen
    September 23, 2012 @ 3:25 pm

    Oh I forgot, I wanna be a rockstar. Have no problem admitting it! I want people to read me, I want them to enjoy it, and it’s really nice when some nice company pays me to write something I would have written anyway. And since I want to be a rockstar I’ll eventually hire someone to re-design my blog AND move it. It would so be worth every cent I pay them. First I’m working on consolidating a bit because I really don’t want to have so many blogs to move and it’s inefficient. But then I’m taking the show on the road–maybe I’ll open for the Bieb? LOL Talk about my idea of hell!


    • Victoria Elizabeth Barnes
      September 26, 2012 @ 8:55 am

      I got away from these comments… because I could spend all day talking about this! Sometimes I feel like I spend ALL my time interacting with comments and reading other blogs and answering email and facebook messages… when I SHOULD be writing blog posts!! LOL!!


  2. Lynne
    February 13, 2013 @ 11:54 am

    Reading your blog is like crack. It is DOPE and I love it ! I have been reading posts for hours on end. My hair is standing up like a chicken. My house could crumble apart and fall down right now, and I won’t even notice.
    So yes….readers are out there. YOU CAN WRITE guuuurrrllly ! Keep up the epic writing.
    Onward and upward to blog-ville ! 🙂 xx


  3. Lynne
    February 13, 2013 @ 12:00 pm

    Oh crap, I see my wordpress gravatar is linking to an old blog I had about a hundred years ago on my previous post. *hot flash*


    • Victoria Elizabeth Barnes
      February 13, 2013 @ 1:01 pm

      You are my new best friend. I will be over later to clean your kitchen… or your basement… or, you know, whatever… just make a list.


  4. the misfit
    April 19, 2013 @ 4:19 pm

    I find this fascinating. And amusing. I am a fairly voracious blog reader. Apparently I am underrepresented – no, UNrepresented – in any of these samples. (Though I see a LOT of other readers and commenters whose behavior appears to mirror mine. So I’m either in a different niche, or these people just charge you a fee and then make stuff up.)


    (1) Everyone likes top ten lists – this has nothing to do with blogging. See, e.g., Leno, Jay.
    (2) I find blogs because I trip over one that have content related to my online interests – mainly design and antiques. (Thus, I am here!)
    (3) I stay for good writing, and compelling personalities factor in; but I’ll eventually leave a blogger who can’t spell. I’ll stick with one who is mean, until she (it’s usually a she) makes offensive political comments unrelated to the blog’s general topic. (This is 95% of the reasons I stop reading websites – even down to stfuparents, to my great shock [N.B.: I simply assume that all bloggers disagree with my politics, so that part is never shocking. I just don’t want to hear about it on a decor blog].)
    (4) Once a blog meets the above criteria, if the author fails to mortally offend me, I never stop reading. I even consider that I have relationships with (less than crazy-famous) bloggers I read regularly. Most blog followers I have observed do the same. Obviously, we’re not going anywhere.
    (5) If I wanted printed stuff, I wouldn’t be on the internet. Even if I USE your recipes (and I do – I save things I like in a special email draft. To heck with pinterest), I am not going to print them. My computer is small; it fits on the counter. So does my phone.
    (6) I like pictures, but I like text more. (See comment about good writing, above.) My favorite blogger to read would be one to whose thought process I can relate, and whose self-presentation I find charming. More text is BETTER. I can always stop reading, but it’s annoying to have to write extra narration in my head.
    (7) The only DECENT reason to use Twitter, Facebook, or any of these other tools is to RELATE TO PEOPLE. If you are reading someone’s tweets and thereby ignoring a living human in front of you talking to you (and you’re not INTENTIONALLY trying to get a stalker-y person to go away), you fail at life. No metric will ever change this. Being a “good blogger” is nice, but it seems worth little if you’re a bad human being. (And no, I do not think that is hyperbole. Although people tell me I am prone to hyperbole.)


    • Victoria Elizabeth Barnes
      April 22, 2013 @ 1:13 pm

      I seem to revisit this post every few months, and feel differently about it each time.

      At this point, I interpret the three-month-abandonment-rule a little differently. Now I think that there are two types of blog-audience: people who come for something specific… and people who come for YOU… and that’s probably further divided by the kind of content a blog has.

      Also, it’s worth noting that this conference was all about brands/sponsors… and I am about neither, (although not by choice, I’d happily take a sponsor.)

      I find that all of the blogs I’ve ever really enjoyed, either petered out and they stopped writing… or it becomes obvious that they’re trying to monetize, and it’s awkward.

      I have a WAY better appreciation for both of those scenarios now, which I didn’t at the time. I also remember being frustrated when a blogger I really liked didn’t post more often… as though she (and yes, usually a she) was failing to entertain me quick enough.

      I also think that the way I read blogs (like you,) is actually rare. When I started this, I figured any new readers would read me front to back… and now I get that’s not true. Those people are RARE. (And precious.) After a year of blogging, I think mostly people want pretty pictures. That they can pin.

      And to further quote meaningless statistics, I just read:
      90% of women have watched a youtube video in the last week.
      10% have read a blog.



  5. Susie
    July 22, 2013 @ 12:36 pm

    It’s a pity you don’t have a donate button!
    I’d without a doubt donate to this brilliant blog! I guess for now i’ll settle for bookmarking and adding
    your RSS feed to my Google account. I look forward
    to new updates and will talk about this blog with my Facebook group.

    Talk soon!


  6. Pam
    July 22, 2013 @ 2:35 pm

    Rare and precious here, waving atcha as I read my way through your entire blog, start to finish. (I’m a slow reader, but I’ll get there.) I agree with all of The Misfit’s points, and I read blogs the same way.


  7. Naomi J
    July 23, 2013 @ 3:11 pm

    I love your blog simply because it isn’t all those things. It’s a happy place to be! Just like Pam, I’m reading your entire blog too! I want to see all the progress you’ve made on your house 😀


  8. Nancy Ross Vecchione
    July 24, 2013 @ 2:37 pm

    Just so you know we don’t all desert you in three months–I’m STILL reading this updates on this post! So we love you, we love your blog, you even made my husband laugh w/yr Craig’s List stories. He’s hard to entertain w/blogs–he’s a movie/tv person (not sure how we ever got together! lol) But wanted to let you know, keep on blogging–you may not be a rock star but in your own small area you are read and enjoyed often. Yours is one blog I recommend to friends—no pressure or anything! See ya at the next conference–my trick? Tweet before the conference, set it to be released at a certain time and enjoy the conference w/out tweeting—ah! Nirvana!


  9. Kathleen
    October 1, 2013 @ 4:56 pm

    You are hilarious.
    I love your blog.
    I do not twitter or tweet.
    I have a Facebook account but intensely dislike using it, I share your social anxiety.
    I imagine you are my new best friend now, even though you don’t know me.
    I’ve read a huge portion of your blog this morning, out of order. I felt compelled to comment which I rarely do. That’s sad that I rarely comment isn’t it?!?
    As to reading a blog and moving on after 3 months… Not me…nope.

    Other things, your wedding looked like a fairy tale.
    You were a beautiful bride.
    Be glad you didn’t buy the house on the river. Really. It would have been years of purgatory unless you won a lottery.

    I’ll revisit your blog, to revisit you :o)


  10. Ginny
    October 2, 2013 @ 8:56 am

    I am not a blogger, just an admirer of Victoria’s awesomeness. Truly special. I don’t think there’s a chance that the readers wll abandon you after 3 months. You are in a class by yourself.
    I read all of the post and the comments. Very interesting, even to someone who will never blog.


  11. Sarah
    January 7, 2014 @ 12:42 pm

    I also read every word and many of the comments on this post. I really enjoy your writing style, which is why I started and have kept reading your blog. I am not a fan of social media. In fact, I find that social media often hinders blogs that I follow or keeps me from wanting to continue readership. To me, blogging is about fresh content, something interesting to read and inspire me. Keep up the good work!


  12. Shawn
    January 26, 2014 @ 8:46 pm

    It’s funny, because you hit the metaphorical nail on the head. Trying to write, trying to blog, I feel like I am back in high school, starting a few days late. All the people already know each other, and the cool have been chosen.
    I know I’m new. I know everything takes time. However, I still kinda want to be one of the cool kids….or at least have them know I exist.

    For the record, I like words. Posts that are all pictures are pretty, but it’s not what I’m here for. I want to see what others are doing. I want to laugh at the stupid things previous owners have done to our homes. I want to be inspired to paint with colours, take risks, and occasionally fail.


  13. Angie O
    March 6, 2014 @ 5:40 pm

    I love it! Found you on Pinterest. Trying to figure out what to do with my blog. Love your writing style. Helped a lot. Gotta get a better handle on the social media…Twitter…. Is exhausting. Sorry… I just don’t get it.


  14. Linda
    March 6, 2014 @ 11:11 pm

    I just read all of this again, including the comments. Not sure what it says about me. I clicked over to read the latest comment and got started, didn’t stop. You, and your readers, make comments worth rereading. I don’t tolerate boredom well, or writers who are trying too hard, being too too cute, only posting pictures. This seems to be a gathering of intelligent, thoughtful people. My opinion, for what it’s worth.


  15. Katie C.
    April 17, 2014 @ 12:45 pm

    I just started reading your blog from the beginning this week so I’m up to here now. I like your sense of humor and your renovations. I redid my kitchen two years ago and am currently saving my pennies to redo the 1964 upstairs bathrooms. You have made some of my search for materials a lot easier.

    I read blogs that interest me – mostly cooking, renovations, and gardening. I have a facebook account and that’s it. I don’t even have a cell phone.

    As for social media, I read something in the paper (yes, the real deal that lands at the bottom of the driveway every day) about someone’s uncle dying and the niece offered to inform the family. She used social media. The family, who didn’t know she did this, was hurt and confused that very few people attended the funeral. The rest of the family was horrified when they found out after the funeral.


  16. Lisa
    October 8, 2014 @ 4:53 pm

    I share the distrust of Twitter voiced by most commentors. I don’t see how very much worth reading can be said in 140 characters or less. I’m biased, though, as my verbosity is legendary. Okay, so is my hyperbole. I could never abide by the “readers hate long posts and love pictures” advice. My blog is all about spirituality and mysticism so what am I going to do, take selfies of myself meditating? I am on Facebook on a professional ( and personal basis but I have had the same experience as a previous commentor: everyone and their mother will like a post about what orifice my son shoved his breakfast in today but post a link to my blog update and the only ones to show up are my mother and the crickets! (See what I did there? I’m clever right? Please love me.) It’s really hard to get readership, especially in a small niche like mine, and it’s even harder to not feel like you’re alone in the wilderness shouting at the trees when that readership doesn’t materialize out of magic and dreams. I don’t know when you originally wrote this but you definitely have a very respectable fan base now! Thanks for the fellowship and inspiration! It helps to know that someone I consider a blogging icon has had similar misgivings.


  17. Maureen Blair
    December 22, 2014 @ 4:07 am

    Hi there,

    I have just discovered your blog and have started reading from the beginning. I look at lots of diy home blogs. It’s what I love. I like blogs where there are lots of words and photos. When I come across a new blog I like I usually read all the posts and then check the blogs every few days to see if there is anything new.

    Some of my favourite blogs have changed a lot. Eg DIY Showoff. I loved that you could just scroll through the posts but this has all changed now and I find it difficult to find my way round. I also think that the blog was probably so successful that the blogger could afford high end stuff. So I have stopped reading it. I am interested in decorating/renovating on a shoestring.

    I love Manhattan Nest and subscribe to the posts so I dispute that your audience will change every 3 months. My favourite blogs are like old friends.

    Find your blog hilarious and will read every bit of it!


  18. Jacqui
    January 13, 2015 @ 4:30 pm

    I love your long posts! Please don’t ever shorten them for my sake. You are hilarious and I read every word!


  19. Tracy
    July 14, 2016 @ 12:43 pm

    So, I am just finding your blog…and I started reading it from the beginning because I like it so much. I just love the way you right and all your craigslist finds. When I used to live by a city then I would find things all the time from craigslist. But now I live in a rural poor area of West Virginia and they just don’t have anything I like. BOO! Anyhow, I started writing this just to tell you that I have been reading the same blogs for over five years…if I love your blog I will follow until you get writing (maybe blogs have done that to me, sad). So don’t worry about what they have said…you seem to be successful I guess since you wrote this about four years ago too!


  20. Jennifer
    August 31, 2016 @ 2:20 am

    I don’t know the average age of your readers, but I’m in my early thirties and just started reading your blog. I read blogs because I like the content and because I like the personality of the person writing. The right person can make any content interesting. I also don’t have a Twitter account, but I do have Facebook and Pinterest (so much pretty!). A blog I really like though, I’ll make the effort to seek them out, not the other way around. I love your blog – you and your husband remind me a bit of me and my husband. We would love to restore an older house. I have my eye on a 1906 one now (in a city that requires my husband to get a new job, but you know… I need a house with an original stained glass window. I NEED IT. Does it have A/C? No. Does it have peeling plaster? Yes. BUT THE STAINED GLASS.). Keep up the good work! 🙂


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