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  1. Payton
    June 22, 2017 @ 11:00 am

    Compromise: do you think you could adopt an older cat, you know, one of those who have been in a shelter too long, BUT, adopt one that GETS ALONG with other cats/foster cats/kittens? It might be a benefit in some cases such as this one, where these sweet children need socialization.

    You are a good person. It’s hard to be brave when you want to cry, but you continue to amaze me. I care. I donate as much money as I can, but my fiance is DEATHLY allergic… I wish there was more I could do.

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    • Victoria Elizabeth Barnes
      June 22, 2017 @ 11:16 am

      just last night, Paul asked me if we were going to end up with an elderly, incontinent, cat that no one else wants… I said— yes… I trust that the “right” one will show up eventually.
      xoxo!!

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  2. Kim S
    June 22, 2017 @ 11:01 am

    Oh My!!!! The one being held in the pic looks exactly like my Cowkitty….he’s been gone a few years now. There isn’t a day that goes by that I don’t miss him. I foster Great Pyrs and it’s the photos that get me every time. I keep saying I am going to take a break from fostering big dogs (they are huge and furry) but then I see another photo of a Pyr needing a foster and BAM!! Another houseguest!

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  3. carol garcia
    June 22, 2017 @ 11:03 am

    your new babies seem to be settleing in nicely….. were they feral captures? they take a little longer to be socialized but it can be done with great success. Bless you for being a foster to so many unwanted babies…. now if we could only obligate people to spay or neuter their pets and help with the TNR programs in their area, we would avoid so many kitties and puppies in High kill shelters, which should not exist at all.

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  4. Abby Bean
    June 22, 2017 @ 11:05 am

    You are making a world of difference!

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  5. Susan Humeston
    June 22, 2017 @ 11:07 am

    Thank you so much for what you do!! I have 4 kitties, all of which were rescues. We did not foster, but went to the Humane Society here and got them over the years. The 2 youngest are Dewey and Louie, identical (almost) brothers and very sweet tuxedo kitties. The oldest is Squeebles, my Maine Coon shadow and last but not least, Junior Beans – a mostly white kitty with orange spots who is a lover and was in our yard as a kitten trying to eat a peanut we had put out for the Blue Jays. I think they own us and have trained us very well rather than the other way around.

    I think you fostering kittens is fabulous – I never thought about doing that.

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  6. Teresa
    June 22, 2017 @ 11:10 am

    Oh, Victoria. Lately I’ve been feeling a little hopeless myself. Reading about the work your doing reminds me that there are still kind, caring people in the world. I admire you so much and I don’t feel I can say that about many people right now.

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  7. April
    June 22, 2017 @ 11:10 am

    Thank you, VEB, for keeping it real!

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  8. Suzanne Forbes
    June 22, 2017 @ 11:13 am

    Each baby kitten is the best baby kitten! Especially impressed at the variety of cuteness here!

    My hubs and I are too limited in our functions to socialize or care for babies, but I always imagine we could help an older cat. We have two cats and every day I think, maybe we should rescue one more cat, surely, we could help one more cat…and then I remember the strange feeling in my heart that we are holding a space for a cat who needs a certain thing at a certain time, that the universe sends one the cats it wants to send you. So I wait, a little longer, for the old guy who needs us.

    But my friend Carrie fosters kittens, batch after batch, and posts updates and pix, for the twitterers here : https://twitter.com/yetra

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  9. jane
    June 22, 2017 @ 11:17 am

    Fostering is the BEST!!!! Our specialty is bottle babies. We’ve done it for 10 years and we just succumbed & adopted our last two. They came to us w/their eyes still closed from different mothers, but have totally bonded. We couldn’t bear to see them separated. You will just know when it’s the right kitten(s) to keep. And we will still continue to foster, the socialization really helps the kittens get adopted more easily.

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  10. Amber Schiffer
    June 22, 2017 @ 11:19 am

    Yes yes yes! Preach it sister!! You have the truth of it in your head, heart, and fingers. Thank you for being who you are – your personality makes me feel less alone in the world.

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  11. Clarisse Youmell
    June 22, 2017 @ 11:19 am

    For the love of EMPATHY and the very essence of what it is to be HUMAN…
    VEB, you are kooky and spastic and I love you.
    You speak what is in my heart. Thank you.

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  12. RL Butler
    June 22, 2017 @ 11:21 am

    I’m glad they were adopted together. I have always been told cats do better in pairs. We have two boys Maxxim and Xander. They are 9 years old and have never been apart. Max I’m cries if he can’t find Xander. I worry what will happen when they get old and one passes away. 😔

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  13. Vickie H.
    June 22, 2017 @ 11:25 am

    God bless you and good luck socializing those babies! New life is amazing! Those sweet little faces! Thank you for sharing your incredible heart and love with all of us! I love these pics you share as you help them on their journey!

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  14. Lora Hart
    June 22, 2017 @ 11:25 am

    Well, you’ve already gotten a lot of well deserved kudos for adopting, so I’m just going to say – I love the towel/hammock/slide contraption you’ve rigged up! I have two grown kittens, but if I ever add another real kitten to the mix I need to know how to make that thing. Fabulous and sooo fun!

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    • Victoria Elizabeth Barnes
      June 22, 2017 @ 11:29 am

      Paul took two smallish dowels/boards (long enough to hang over the wire bars just slightly) and then wrapped a towel around (secured with small clamps so I can remove to wash).

      He needs to cut a divot in the ends of the boards to sit on the wire, because when they really get active they pull it down!

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  15. Jo
    June 22, 2017 @ 11:48 am

    There is something about tuxedos that melts my heart! When mine is sleeping on my bed and I come into the room he flips over onto his back so I can scratch and rub his belly. He lifts up his front legs and I scratch his little leg pits. I could pet and hug and kiss that cat all day. You are doing such great things. Bless you.

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  16. Cindy Johnson
    June 22, 2017 @ 11:57 am

    I love your new fosters! I bottle-feed for a rescue here in Georgia. I currently have 7 kittens I am fostering (plus my own 4 cats). Kitten season has been brutal here with daily dire pleas for help! Bless you for fostering!!

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  17. Marianne in Mo.
    June 22, 2017 @ 11:57 am

    You are an angel kitty-mom! I love what you stand for and that you have a wonderful husband who helps you to help the kittens. Mine is so against getting another cat or two, and I want them so bad. But I know what happens when I surprise him with an animal, and it becomes a battle ground for years. SAD. I would foster if he would only agree!
    I hope your forever kitty comes along soon, you clearly have love to give!

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  18. Cheryl
    June 22, 2017 @ 11:59 am

    We are now bringing in refugees from violent war torn countries to work in the slaughter houses. Anyone who works in a slaughter house has to have zero compassion or empathy for any living thing. How is this good for our country or the refugees?

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  19. Miz Robyn
    June 22, 2017 @ 12:03 pm

    Fostering is so hard and so rewarding – I’ve been doing it pretty much constantly since 2005, and have fostered more than 300 of them. I’ve currently got a mother cat and her two 11 week old daughters in my foster room – the mother came to me from a local rescue, pregnant, and had her babies here.

    We live in a 1930 Craftsman-style house in the country in Alabama and are planning to sell the house soonish – we’re looking at other houses in the area, and I’m pretty insistent that we need to have at least two rooms for fostering. 🙂

    Your current fosters look to be in great shape – and I think you’ll tame them in no time flat.

    (We had realtors out to our house a few weeks ago to talk to us, and they RAVED about how the house doesn’t “smell like cat.” I mean, what? Pardon me? I DO CLEAN, YOU KNOW. I can’t decide whether to be offended or amused.)

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  20. Stephanie Croquez
    June 22, 2017 @ 12:05 pm

    Very similar situation…. when ours died… we fostered. I see it as honoring my dear sweet furry one. So Elvis has a legacy. You may end up adopting and fostering perhaps….this has proven to be amazing socialization for our kitty!

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  21. Amber
    June 22, 2017 @ 12:16 pm

    This was extremely poignant and on target, especially what you said about how when something rips our heart out and we can almost not standing knowing or seeing something, then it must mean that it is something we need to do something about.

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  22. Pam
    June 22, 2017 @ 12:30 pm

    You have such a huge heart and it’s wonderful to see 4 more babies that will have better lives because of you. I can’t adopt or foster because my one kitty that I adopted as a stray wouldn’t allow it sadly. The most I can do at this time is donate as often as I am able.

    Because you are so witty and already have a huge following both here on your blog and your personal IG account, I had suggested a couple months ago that you might want to use IG to advance your kitty fostering. The cat community on IG is incredible, and articulate, kind, loving foster accounts get hundreds of thousands of followers which enables them to bring so much awareness to helping these innocent kitties. I had sent you in a DM some IG account names that are incredible accounts of foster moms that have such great followers that their fosters are almost immediately adopted as soon as they are ready (old enough, vetted, spayed/neutered).

    You are so amazing that I really believe you will become one of the most influential foster moms if you wish to go that route.

    I might suggest one important thing though since you seem to be a sporadic IG poster. For maximum impact (eyeballs, influence, comments, followers and eventual adopters for your kittens) you might want to create a cat-centric IG account seperate from your current personal design/fashion account. IG is quite segmented based on interests. Home decorators look at decorating IG accts. Travel people follow travel accts. Dog people follow dog IGS. Cat people follow cat ones. Your recent kitty post on your fashion/blog type IG won’t get nearly the attention that you would get if you set up a VEB_fostering acct for instance (assuming on your regular IG you tell your 10k followers to go follow your “fostering” IG Acct).

    Sorry for the long winded post, but I truly believe you could be one of the true “Influencers” on IG if you so choose to spread your message.

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  23. Katya
    June 22, 2017 @ 12:33 pm

    Such a beautiful and important post. I’ve never understood how people can CHOOSE to look away at the animals suffering even though the animals have no choice or power to help themselves. They must depend on humans that care enough to actually do something. Bravo to you for fostering these precious furbabies! All three of our cats were rescues and we used to always foster before we finally adopted. One of our cats is now 17 and it looks like in the final stages of her life. Once she passes and I have time to grieve we will go back to fostering, as our younger two love kittens! We have very strange cats. One even loves baths, plays fetch, walks on a leash, comes when he calls, and spoons with me every night. We think he has special identity disorder lol. He was around dogs a lot before we got him. One of the momma dogs had a litter when he was a kitten and adopted him too. He also doesn’t like anyone else but me, which makes him even better 😜 Gorgeous black cat. Keep doing what you are doing and spreading the word. And thank you for helping make a difference!

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  24. Cindy Smith
    June 22, 2017 @ 12:35 pm

    I do not like cats/kittens at all. But I am thankful that there are people like you in the world that do care and take care of as many as you can. Bless you! We are dog people and have had 8 rescue dogs so far. Keep up the good work!

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  25. devon pfeifer
    June 22, 2017 @ 12:58 pm

    Amen Sister! Anyone with an ounce of empathy and available means should get on the foster/rescue train, whatever animal you identify with; You save lives and get so much in return for just being involved. Actions speak louder than words, go to a shelter and see what chaos is like……….see a starving horse in a field? Call your state equine rescue league………suspect neglect of a neighbors dogs or know someone has moved and left them behind, call animal control. There is no shortage of orphans, only a shortage of passionate hearts and open homes. It really does make a difference, and you are reminded every day of the good you are doing

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  26. Sharyl Murphy
    June 22, 2017 @ 1:25 pm

    Those 4 kittens are absolutely adorable and you are a good soul Victoria. I hope all is well
    with you 🙂

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  27. Maria Barnes
    June 22, 2017 @ 1:44 pm

    Beyond the decorating, the witty posts and enchanting sense of humor, I love your spirit. As our world evolves into a more technical, detached & often disparaging place to exist in, there are those, like yourself that help us remember our humanity and the amazing gift that life is. That connection with all living things soothes my soul. If you want to read a very old, but amazing book, try “Kinship With All Life” by J. Allen Boone. It’s a tiny little volume but it will leave you to ponder this life and the creatures we share it with. I read it once a year, just to remember.

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  28. Debbie Adair
    June 22, 2017 @ 2:17 pm

    Something you said reminded me of one of my favorite quotes from one of my favorite books. “There is no division nor subtraction in the heart-arithmetic of a good mother. There are only addition and multiplication.”
    ― Bess Streeter Aldrich, A Lantern in Her Hand
    If you haven’t read that book, YOU MUST! It’s not about kittens but it is very wonderful.

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  29. Jenny Hudson
    June 22, 2017 @ 2:42 pm

    Thank you so very much for not turning away as so many people do. And thank you for championing empathy and it’s continued place in all our worlds. Love your kittens and the joy they bring so many (and I adore your blog soooooo much as well). Continue your great and important work!

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  30. Kelly Fisher
    June 22, 2017 @ 2:48 pm

    Thank you for spreading your compassionate message about kitty fostering. I’m an ‘adopt, don’t shop’ kind of girl – my 15 year old Torti cat isn’t adaptable enough to bring foster babies in the house – and have committed to donating a portion of each real estate commission (I’m in real estate sales in Nashville TN) I earn to the local Middle Tennessee German Shepherd Rescue organization, in memory of my beloved GSD Ruby that died this past April. It does feel good to save another animal’s life and even better to know I’m going to help more than just this one that’s coming home with me soon. Waiting for adoptee Lola to come on down!!
    Keep it up! You’re an inspiration to me.

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  31. Shirley
    June 22, 2017 @ 3:05 pm

    Victoria, you should have the shelters in your area check out the Humane Society for Tacoma & Pierce County, Washington. They have a ‘dog-a-thon’ every year that raises $$ for all their animals. A local gal does foster kittens with a very entertaining blog, TheIttyBittyKittyCommittee.com, and has raised hundreds of thousands of dollars for our shelter. The shelter has been able to expand and have built rooms for senior cats, community rooms to socialize, and even a ring-worm room. They have low-cost spay & neuter and subsidized low-income pet food. Their goal is no-kill. People that care deeply about animals CAN make a difference!

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  32. Leigh Alexander
    June 22, 2017 @ 4:43 pm

    I never say this when people post photos of the fosters they have (because they are always bloody out of state +a million miles, so what would be the point) BUT; I would take all four of them. Now. Well as soon as I pack a toothbrush and drive to you from Maine…..❤️

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  33. Suzen
    June 22, 2017 @ 5:06 pm

    Here’s what I do… donate every month automatically to animal rescue organizations. Even a small donation regularly helps! I do social work, so I make sure that the families I see with un-neutered/spayed animals are heartily encouraged to get it done and provided with information about free services, including shots and vet care. Recently we had a trap and release program and I told them where to find the ferals. I have a 19 year old ratty incontinent cat and a younger one that someone left behind when they moved. These are the things I can do. There’s plenty that everyone can do to help! (Also my dog came from a place that was busted twice for animal cruelty and neglect. He’s a challenge, but he’s ours for life!) Thanks for what you are doing, and for talking about it, too!

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  34. Rachel
    June 22, 2017 @ 5:08 pm

    “I am not changing the world… but for EIGHT animals so far, I have changed their ENTIRE world.”

    Yes this this this!!!! I feel like often people are all, “ugh I can’t do anything that makes a meaningful difference, the problem is just overwhelming and too large” (and here in Oklahoma… as in most of the South… the unwanted dog and cat problem is very, very large and very frustrating). But you totally CAN make a huge difference, one animal at a time, with minimal effort!!!

    We are dog people, not so much cat people, but 🙂 our first foster dog went home five weeks ago. We had had him for SIX MONTHS. We totally cried and missed him but the couple he went to live with is SO great and has sent us pictures! It’s just one dog, but he was on the euthanasia list at a shelter in rural Oklahoma, and now he has an amazing life and a family to go camping with and it makes me so happy because he’s an amazing dog. We are taking a little break (we have two dogs of our own so three gets a little tiring, and we have some travel coming up) but can’t wait to foster again! Bonus points, it was GREAT for our younger dog who got to have a temporary best friend and playmate! 10/10, highly recommend 🙂

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  35. Elaine
    June 22, 2017 @ 6:07 pm

    Thank you, Victoria.

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  36. Lianna
    June 22, 2017 @ 8:39 pm

    So wonderful that you have been fostering!!! Every word you wrote rings true!! I volunteer with a rescue and you go through so many emotions, but to see animal florish and feel that wonderful feeling when you just know the right right person/family comes along is amazing!! It’s not always rainbows and butterflies, but the good out weighs the not so good!!

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  37. Heidi Stallman
    June 22, 2017 @ 11:10 pm

    Enjoyed reading about your foster experiences. I have fostered over 300 kittens in the last 13 years with only 3 foster fails, all special needs kitties that no one wanted to adopt. Today my 8 yo son told me it was okay if we didn’t keep any of the kittens this summer because when one gets adopted there is always another one that needs help. It filled my heart with love and joy to know that he gets it. We give them all of our love while they are with us and then we send that love out into the world, so we can help another. Thanks for being a special crazy cat foster.

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  38. Haley
    June 23, 2017 @ 12:50 pm

    You inspired me to foster awhile back and we have our first foster kitty right now! His name is Lorax.

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  39. sweetfe
    June 23, 2017 @ 4:31 pm

    Yay to you for saving the kitties! Have you considered getting a no-kill shelter started in your area? The https://www.sfspca.org is a no-kill shelter. They help an amazing number of animals to find their forever homes. They help animals from surrounding shelters to find homes, too. I adopted a kitty from them last January and learned she had been a rescue from Napa. I really have no idea how one would accomplish this task, but the people at the http://www.sfspca.org are really wonderful and I am sure they can share how they got their start…and how they manage to keep going.

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  40. Janice
    June 24, 2017 @ 1:48 pm

    I love this post (and I really have loved all of your other posts as well). In a world that has gone bonkers I can’t tell you how much I look forward to reading your words and seeing the photos you take – it does the soul good. Thanks for all the good you do for the kitties in your area!

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