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  1. Melissa
    June 28, 2016 @ 11:28 am

    hugs to you
    (and tears with you)
    and I really have nothing more to offer, which makes me sad
    but know I’m I thinking of you guys

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  2. Pam Mastin
    June 28, 2016 @ 11:31 am

    I hear and feel you. We just lost one of our dogs and it is truly paralyzing and nothing else matters at this time. They give us so much.

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  3. Garden, Home and Party
    June 28, 2016 @ 11:31 am

    Victoria,
    I am so sorry to hear Elvis is struggling a bit. It’s never helped me to know and understand the eventual end to a pet’s life. I am still struck by the helplessness that occurs when a furry family member is old and/or ill.
    The transformation of the kitchen and adjacent space is amazing. I know it will be wonderful!
    Best to you during this trying time with Elvis.
    xo,
    Karen

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  4. Tina
    June 28, 2016 @ 11:31 am

    I cannot get over the difference between “before” and “after”, which know isn’t really AFTER, just “part of the way through after”. How are you coping with the never-ending kitchen renovation? I’m 4 weeks into a hopefully 8 week project and feel like I want to cry and order out every night. Thankfully I mostly ignore both of those feelings.

    And I’m so sorry about Elvis’ downward spiral. I can’t imagine how difficult this is.

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  5. Rosemary Gregory
    June 28, 2016 @ 11:31 am

    Spend as much time as possible with your baby, you will never regret it. Everything else will work itself out. My heart is with you.

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  6. Helen Glenn
    June 28, 2016 @ 11:37 am

    <3 Elvis <3 🙁 🙁 it's always so hard, which is as it should be except that it's awful <3

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  7. Laurie Nicholson
    June 28, 2016 @ 11:38 am

    I can absolutely appreciate the “brain in cement”, having just lost a much beloved pet. I’d say the brushing while Elvis rubs her head against her furry ball in a blanket nest is a prime activity right now. Remind yourself of what a splendid life you have provided, and continue to provide, for Elvis, and how much joy she brings to you … right now … today.

    Hugs and good thoughts to you. Your readers love you and appreciate every dimension of what you share with us!

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  8. fern benson
    June 28, 2016 @ 11:38 am

    hang in there…….
    I’ve be en there, done that, got more than 1 t-shirt as it were. With our cat Mittie, my husband Paul sat out with her in the sun of the back yard for hours on her last day. And with our dog Sasha…………our last day with her………..we made clay footprints of her paws, gave her her favorite junk food, her favorite place to walk………..
    our cat Pucky – a good smoothing brush.
    and I was happy to say I had an painter-friend (Connie Townsend) do their portraits!
    Aren’t we lucky they have been in our lives!

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  9. Elisa
    June 28, 2016 @ 11:39 am

    Elvis.

    Nothing else matters.

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  10. Loretta
    June 28, 2016 @ 11:40 am

    Prayers for Elvis from FL. I was almost in tears reading your post.

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  11. fern benson
    June 28, 2016 @ 11:40 am

    oh, and I like the paint color in the kitchen! Very close to mine (great minds think alike?)

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  12. Patty/NS
    June 28, 2016 @ 11:45 am

    Dear sweet, beautiful, Elvis; I totally understand the cement brain. Totally. Do what you can and don’t be hard on yourself, as a fellow pet mummy I too have been where you are. Just be and don’t worry about anything else. The new look for the sad room is fabulous. Take care. ?

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  13. Tammy
    June 28, 2016 @ 11:47 am

    I’m so sorry for you and your Elvis, but you are very lucky, as is she. We took Oscar to the vet because he wasn’t himself – thin, no spunk. I had no idea that we would be coming home without him, no time to prepare, plan, nothing. Feel peaceful knowing you’ve left nothing undone. You’ll be ok and so will Elvis.

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  14. Marisa Franca @ All Our Way
    June 28, 2016 @ 11:48 am

    I know how hard it is to face the inevitable. But it is good that Elvis has you and you’re taking the time to make the most of the time you do have. Your paint job looks so much better than that godawful orange. Sending a big hug!

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  15. Dianne
    June 28, 2016 @ 11:50 am

    Love Elvis and enjoy this time together. Thinking of you three.

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  16. Jacqui
    June 28, 2016 @ 11:51 am

    Sorry to read of your worries for Elvis. He has been a wonderfully loved soul you have been blessed to love. Be tender with yourself

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  17. cyn
    June 28, 2016 @ 11:53 am

    Dear heart,
    (((HUGS))))
    I highly recommend falling apart as needed.
    Also perhaps keep reminding yourself that this a part of life. Elvis knows and accepts this and is not bothered in the least. Follow Elvis’ lead and all will be as it should. Your relationship is highly successful, you are blessed. Elvis is loved.

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  18. Jennifer Kenny
    June 28, 2016 @ 11:54 am

    Hi! I’m sorry to hear Elvis isn’t eating well. Something you can try is called Forti-Flora. It’s a probiotic for cats but cats LOVE the taste! Sprinkle it on Elvis’ food and most likely he will eat! It’s like kitty crack. I’ve used it for my kitties through chemo and radiation, as well as kidney disease. Good luck!

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    • fixitchick
      June 28, 2016 @ 6:51 pm

      can it be given to cats with hyperthyroid? my 17 [almost 18] year old beh-beh is getting so skinny and the vet said he isnt allowed anything but his prescription food.

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  19. Tammi Velez
    June 28, 2016 @ 11:54 am

    The room looks like a totally different place. It’s fantastic!

    There are no words for the rest. You are awesome and I’m sure Elvis appreciates you.

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  20. ActualConversationsWithMyHusband
    June 28, 2016 @ 11:56 am

    Cuddle Elvis. Everything else will be there later.

    (Some of it may technically be a pile of ash later, but that just means you can sweep it up easier.)

    Also, if it makes you feel any better, eating is only one of the signs you’re meant to watch for. It’s pretty meaningless if she’s happy and comfortable otherwise.

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    • ccr in MA
      June 29, 2016 @ 2:46 pm

      I second this about the not eating. When my Pan more or less stopped eating, he lasted for much longer than I thought was possible, and was happy to lie in the window or on my lap. Only when he couldn’t jump on the bed on his own was it really time; up to that point, he was skinnier and skinnier, but still purring and happy. Spend as much time with Elvis as you can.

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  21. susan
    June 28, 2016 @ 11:56 am

    So sorry to hear Elvis isn’t doing well. Hugs to you both.

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  22. Diana
    June 28, 2016 @ 12:00 pm

    Those of us who have gone through similar experiences with our beloved pets totally understand cement brain. There is no sugar coating what you are going through. It is going to hurt. I don’t think you can ever really prepare for the parting. Just keep doing what you are doing with Elvis. Love her, comfort her, and treasure each moment.
    I will tell you that the heartbreak does get better over time, even if it never totally goes away. Our sweet Rico has been gone three years, and I thought I would never want to put myself in the position of going through that kind of heartbreak again, but a few months ago my friend called me about a mini dachshund that needed a home. I was reluctant to even have a look at him, but so glad my husband and I did. He was ours the first moment we saw him, and I am so glad that enough time had passed that we were finally ready to accept a new love and responsibility into our lives.
    Thank you for sharing with us. Know you fans support you.

    The room is so lovely and Paul will surely be granted sainthood status any day now. He might even bring back tank tops.

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  23. Kay
    June 28, 2016 @ 12:05 pm

    Wonderful transformation.

    My heart goes out to you. There seems to be one special cat, no matter how many you have over the years, and the loss of that one is so hard. I lost my special cat 13 years ago and remember her like it was yesterday. She was sick, but the vet had to tell me she was dying. I just couldn’t admit the thought. Knowing what will happen, as you do, doesn’t make it easier. But at least Elvis is still enjoying her favorite things.

    When the worst happens, please let your readers know. A post saying nothing but “She’s gone” will be enough. Then we can mourn with you and pray for you.

    By the way, she may visit you for a little while after. The presence is there, and you feel like you’ve just missed catching sight of her. My friend would hear the jingling of her dog’s collar. It’s comforting, in a way.

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  24. Susan
    June 28, 2016 @ 12:13 pm

    Loving your precious Elvis is your best choice of activities for now. I can just see her rubbing her head on her fuzzy ball in a blanket nest while you brush her. Precious time.
    The before and after contrast is incredible! So beautiful now. Hugs and prayers for Elvis and for you. I feel like you are a friend even though we have never met. I always look forward to your new posts.

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  25. Diana
    June 28, 2016 @ 12:14 pm

    We have just begun renovations on our newly purchased humungous income generating/vacation home (six bedrooms and five bathrooms, not where you would expect them to be) and we’ve discovered a new level of reno frustration – getting things done in a small town when you have to drive 5 hours home after each weekend. Interesting challenges to say the least. These frustrations have led to a new level of gratefulness for all of the people we have just met in our small town and who have been incredibly helpful. There is nothing like a reno to get all your new neighbours talking to you, offering advice, offering tools and lawnmowers and freshly picked fruit, offering actual free labour and introductions to the best tradespeople along with friendly encouragement. We have been relying on a bevy of recently retired tradespeople who also love living in a tourist town but are bored silly and still very active. Some of these people grew up in our town and they know the entire history of our house down to who did the electrical work during the 1980 renovations.

    Anyway, I feel for you with those bright, jarring colours. I recall that small moment in time (fall of 1998?)when those colours were very popular. Before I wrapped my head around painting any walls in jarring colours, the fad had passed but there is still evidence everywhere. We are joyfully ripping out the endless supply of 1980 brass lighting fixtures with country flowers on the glass that look like they were stolen from the set of Bonanza. By endless, I mean endless; one bedroom alone has two sconces, a ceiling fan light, along with four other assorted brass/glass/country flowers ceiling fixtures. I forgot there were light fixtures with frills at one point in time.

    Please accept my heartfelt best hopes for Elvis and be kind to yourself during this very sad time.

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  26. Kathleen
    June 28, 2016 @ 12:18 pm

    I truly feel for you. This is the worst part of living with animals.

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  27. Mary
    June 28, 2016 @ 12:25 pm

    I lost my beloved dog last year. A friend shared this quote with me and it helped. I hope they help you too.
    “There is a cycle of love and death that shapes the lives of those who choose to travel in the company of animals. It is a cycle unlike any other. To those who have never lived through its turnings or walked its rocky path, our willingness to give our hearts with full knowledge that they will be broken seems incomprehensible. Only we know how small a price we pay for what we receive; our grief, no matter how powerful it may be, is an insufficient measure of the joy we have been given.” —Suzanne Clothier, “Bones Would Rain from the Sky”

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  28. Jayne Z
    June 28, 2016 @ 12:32 pm

    I was afraid of this when we didn’t receive any posts from you for a while. I completely understand what you’re going through. My Bandit turned 19 in April and I have the constant dread of losing him hanging over my head. Like you with Elvis, I treasure every single minute with Bandit and drop everything to make sure he gets all the attention and love he wants. Take care Elizabeth — you, Elvis and Paul are in my thoughts.

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  29. Hillary
    June 28, 2016 @ 12:51 pm

    I’m so very sorry. The base of your grief is the depth of your love for Elvis and she knows that with every cell in her kitty body. She has shared an amazing journey with you. Of course you have cement brain…, it will mend but you will always have the ache. Ironically, you wouldn’t want any other way. Its a barometer of your commitment and love to Elvis. I wish you peace on your final chapter with her. I am so very sad and so very sorry.

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  30. lizykat
    June 28, 2016 @ 12:56 pm

    First, the after version is AMAZING…light open airy. Second, you can ALWAYS use more earrings and those, sister, were a fabulous choice! Thirdly, so sad you and Paul are going through this…my husband and I are cat owners and have always had multiple cats in our 30 years together….we are broken up when one passes, some more than others, and it took me a full two years to get over losing two of my more favorites within 3 months of each other. Pet owners understand your pain, if that is any solace. hug Elvis and Paul in whichever order is best…xoxo

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  31. Mary J
    June 28, 2016 @ 12:57 pm

    Having been through the same, no words I can say will make this time easier or less painful but know that my thoughts and prayers are with you, Elvis and Paul. Our kitties are so precious to us and you are a wonderful mom to Elvis.

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  32. bluesuedeshoe
    June 28, 2016 @ 1:01 pm

    Sweet, you both have done an amazing job providing Elsa with a wonderful life. All things pass and change, it is natural and unavoidable. If she could speak, she would tell you not to postpone your real life for her, right?

    I believe in heaven for all. In the fullness of time, you will all be reunited.

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  33. Nine Dark Moons
    June 28, 2016 @ 1:03 pm

    Your addition is amazing. As is everything you’ve done to your house. It’s gorgeous. I am sad about Elvis. I wish you good strength as you deal with this part of her life. I know she is a part of you and always will be.

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  34. Carol Sybrowsky
    June 28, 2016 @ 1:05 pm

    Dear VEB – love the transformations in you home. I live way far, far away in sunny southern California (about 100 miles north of the border) where sunshine is clear and golden.. Strong colors do well in our climate. As you have already determined, strong colors are probably not such a good idea in your neck of the woods .

    Anyway, regarding ELVIS, have you considered fresh nutmeg as an appetite stimulant? It works for humans (ancient Ayurvedic medicine therapy) but the quantity needs to be small because in “large” quantities, it can cause hallucinations, convulsion and even death. Don’t know the proper dose for cats. You might ask your vet.

    Best wishes, Carol

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  35. DD
    June 28, 2016 @ 1:10 pm

    Cement brain is such an apt description. Know that we are with you, and Elvis, and Paul. So glad you can spend this time with her.

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  36. ConnieK
    June 28, 2016 @ 1:41 pm

    My heart goes out to you. We went through the final days with our lovely Winston J., our beautiful, long-haired black kitty, and there is no way to ever really be prepared for the end. For us, that was Christmas Eve 2014. He had completely quit eating and with other signs we knew it was time. We had a vet service come to our home so he had no last trauma of the vet’s office and they made the transition so much easier on him and on us. Thank God for the wonderful vets who perform this service for those of us who must say Goodbye to the loves of our lives. I have told several friends about this mobile service and it seems this service is not well known. I hope this is available in your area. We asked Winston J.’s vet for information on a service in our area. Take the time you need and spend all the time you can with Elvis. Be kind to yourself during this trying time and during your grief. It can’t be rushed and everyone handles it in their own way. You, Paul, and Elvis will be in my thoughts and I hope you can find some comfort in the fact that Elvis was loved as much as any kitty can be while on this earth and she will be waiting for you and Paul across the Rainbow Bridge when the time is right for you to join her.

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  37. mpv61
    June 28, 2016 @ 1:46 pm

    My sympathies about Elvis; nothing is more important than spending time with him right now. As for the changes to the addition, your pictures are worth a thousand words — it looks great.

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  38. savannah
    June 28, 2016 @ 1:50 pm

    You have my heart. xoxoox

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  39. Kathy
    June 28, 2016 @ 2:16 pm

    I SO empathize. My rescue kitty of 14 years has her first foot on the Rainbow Bridge. My heart is breaking as I cradle her and love on her. Her purrs are weaker every day, but she knows I am here. Hugs to you and Elvis. ?

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  40. John Guehlstorff III
    June 28, 2016 @ 2:18 pm

    I have read your writings for a number of years. We think alike when it comes to “stuff” that others have that is actually ours. I shared your blog on my FB page… Truth be told, I asked my FB friends not to tell you that I (we… my wife Jayna and I) have an antique store out here in the SW corner of Iowa.

    Keep up the fun and informative writing Victoria.

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