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  1. Siouxie Q
    November 5, 2014 @ 10:14 am

    Chocolate. And a nap. That ought to fix you right up until Paul comes to his damn senses.

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    • Lori W.
      November 5, 2014 @ 10:35 am

      I was going to suggest booze, but chocolate and a nap works too!

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      • Sunnie Mitchell
        November 6, 2014 @ 6:53 am

        Booze and chocolate followed by a good nap works best of all. No need to ask how I know this:)

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  2. Dianne
    November 5, 2014 @ 10:16 am

    If Paul is up for grabs, I want him! 🙂
    Seriously, he needs to realize you are a genius and work on an entirely different level.

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  3. JudyBee
    November 5, 2014 @ 10:18 am

    And that, in a nutshell (or blog post), is what marriage is all about–trying hard not to be driven crazy by the other person. I’m in the middle of a kitchen remodel and my husband is the researcher and I am the decider. This has mostly worked out, THIS TIME. He gives me the options, and I make a decision. Sometimes he cares more than me, and sometimes I care more than him. Luckily, we stared all this 7 months ago so there has been plenty of time for his research and I met the goal of being done by Thanksgiving. It only took us 25 years to figure this out. I love your posts!!

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  4. Carole @ Rustic Artistry
    November 5, 2014 @ 10:21 am

    You guys need the sign I got for my husband:
    I’d agree with you but then we’d both be wrong.

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  5. Donna Marchlewski
    November 5, 2014 @ 10:26 am

    HaHaHa! You just make me smile in my heart 🙂

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  6. Kat
    November 5, 2014 @ 10:27 am

    Keep up the fight! I have recently acquired a baby kingdom mirror AND a sort of fancy wardrobe from craigslist. I haven’t done a single thing to copy Paul 🙂 #livelikeVEB

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  7. Patra
    November 5, 2014 @ 10:29 am

    I love this post 🙂

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  8. Kate
    November 5, 2014 @ 10:29 am

    Hang in there! You’ve made your house a home….so you must be doing something right.

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  9. becky up a hill
    November 5, 2014 @ 10:36 am

    defend the honor of your irritation…epic line. Oh good nite this post made me laugh. out. loud.

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    • applehillcottage
      November 5, 2014 @ 11:12 am

      Oh me too! I love that line. I’m going to remember it. A friend of mine said to me the other day — You and your husband have rehabbed two houses? And you’re still married?

      That’s because we’ve accepted that we can have the same fight 57,000 times.
      This post made me spit out my coffee in laughter!

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  10. teri
    November 5, 2014 @ 10:36 am

    I have 19 half finished projects on the go and I do not let my husband anywhere near the washing machine. He dumps stuff in a basket on top of it. Last time he washed anything it went through on boil wash as he selected #1 as it was the first number he saw.
    Keep on venting on this blog – you make me smile ♥

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  11. Patricia
    November 5, 2014 @ 10:37 am

    The way we work it in our marriage. 1) first we kinda agree that the design thing needs to be replaced, updated, painted, have new lights or whatever … well, I SUGGEST it and he eventually comes around. 2) I do all the reseach online, in stores, picking out paint chips and give him his choice of up to three items (sometimes it’s only one but it’s still a choice). 3) facing an unstoppable force, he picks one. 4) I call schedule our handy guy (not my husband… that’s the key to getting him to go along with the whole thing). 5) I buy all the materials and set it all up. 6) handy guy does the work and I clean up. 7) my husband promptly takes credit for the whole project.
    And everybody is happy.

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    • Marjean
      February 3, 2015 @ 3:34 pm

      You Patricia are a very brilliant woman… only way to fly

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  12. Fiona
    November 5, 2014 @ 10:37 am

    My husband and I rarely fight. But when we do, it’s about renovations. And then the fights are HUGE. So fun.

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  13. Patricia
    November 5, 2014 @ 10:38 am

    But he’s really good at doing laundry…

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  14. Linda S. Montgomery
    November 5, 2014 @ 10:40 am

    Victoria, you’ve been on my mind this past week. I’ve been thinking about Christmas and what fantastic things you have in the works. And I have to add now that I’ve read this post that I am so grateful for your honesty. I thought I was the only one distracted by a shiny object. Truly, I did. But there is you and I find great comfort in our similarities and more specifically, logic. I get you. I’m like you and that makes me very happy. My Dan is like your Paul. They are amazing but lack the creativity and understanding to just KEEP UP!! Sheesh. Thank you for this. Rock on my sister, rock on.

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  15. Cynthia Christensen
    November 5, 2014 @ 10:46 am

    You crack me up! You must live in my head…..are we crazy or do the men in our lives miss out on our “ever-so-cute” ways. Isn’t this why they fell in love with us? Why do we stay with them? Is it because we love their steadiness? What the hay is going on? I’d like to know, this is exhausting! BTW you are a remarkable writer. Love how you share you and your husband’s stuff. Not only can I relate, I find it comforting that I’m not the only Desi and Lucy Ricardo, in a Ward and June Cleaver world. Thanx.

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  16. Katie
    November 5, 2014 @ 10:50 am

    I have no idea what you’re talking abou — LOOK! SOMETHING SHINY! *runs to it*

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  17. Carol
    November 5, 2014 @ 10:50 am

    I love this post. Who hasn’t felt this way in their marriage? My great epiphany was when I learned not to tell my husband (in detail) how I was spending my time unless he asked. I learned to wait until I had most of my ideas formed/research done BEFORE I proposed the next project. Then minor changes seemed reasonable, and the clock began ticking on his watch.

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  18. Kathryn
    November 5, 2014 @ 10:51 am

    This conversation/fight sounds like it could have been lifted from my house! I know how those comments and certain ‘looks’ can burn holes right through your excitement of the ‘new’ project….Don’t they know how that hinders progress? I am a secret ‘recovering creative’, reluctant to share with the ‘good spouse’…haha…

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  19. Liza Witt
    November 5, 2014 @ 10:53 am

    You are so funny!! A great way to start my morning, reading this! I, and I am sure many others can relate to your posting. Will be forwarding this to several friends, sister and my Mother!

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  20. Asia
    November 5, 2014 @ 10:58 am

    So that is it… No actual kitchen planning? I am disappointed in this post… Sure, talk about how you fight about it but at least show some photos of what he has in mind… Something.

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    • Lara
      November 12, 2014 @ 10:30 pm

      This makes me laugh. I’m always amazed she has fans that really just care what her kitchen looks like.

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    • judy
      November 16, 2014 @ 8:47 am

      The post need be nothing more than it is-I can assure you there are Blogs that will show you their kitchens-in the planning stage, the possible,probable,everything going swimmingly, falling apart @the studs, costing a Kings Ransom, found in an Alley,country,city,farm style ad nauseum but nobody does blogging like VictoriaElizabethBarnes.com. Kitchens Bah! Who needs em when one is laughing raucously?

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