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  1. Linda
    June 28, 2016 @ 2:20 pm

    My heart goes out to you & Elvis. I know you will make the most of whatever time you have left together. You both were so fortunate to find each other and share the the always too short amount of time we’re given with loved ones, especially the furry ones whose lifespans are so much shorter than ours to begin with.

    The house is coming along beautifully & will still be there once your brain breaks free of the cement again.

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  2. Kiki
    June 28, 2016 @ 2:35 pm

    Smiling through tears – yes, cement brain is an apt word for this feeling of helplessness, love, anguish, love, and love…..
    I sigh with you, I send a huge bunch of good thoughts to you, tied in a great lovely bunch of summer flowers – time with Elvis is essential, all the rest will still be around and waiting to be done when she is no longer. Take it and give her all the cuddles, warmth and love you both have.

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  3. Stephanie
    June 28, 2016 @ 2:35 pm

    Your addition is coming along so beautifully! I teared up at the rest and my heart goes out to you and Elvis! I can’t imagine going through that with my dear kitties, and admire the graceful way you are navigating this sad time. Elvis’s favorite activity sounds about the best way to spend your time. Best wishes and hugs.

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  4. Linda Spiese
    June 28, 2016 @ 2:36 pm

    I highly recommend that you watch the brief video I posted yesterday on FB. It’s the story of how a dog saved a man’s life. It will touch your heart and perhaps comfort you while you’re dealing with this. Peace.
    I don’t think I can post a link to it but we are FB friends.

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  5. Lin
    June 28, 2016 @ 2:48 pm

    Victoria you are doing what is most important….spending time with sweet Elvis in this journey in her life. You will not regret that at all. All the other things will be tended to once you have helped her through this time and you will need those things to help you after Elvis is gone. I am sending you a huge hug and have been right where you are. Bless that baby’s heart and yours.

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  6. judy
    June 28, 2016 @ 2:49 pm

    The room is looking so lovely and somehow serine . A quiet place to see soft snow drifting down in winter and flowers in Summer. Of course I knew it would and Kudos to both you and Paul for making it look effortless. I know it was any thing but.

    In 56 years of marriage we have had so so many beloved Pet friends that we had to bid goodbye and it leaves such a sore spot in ones soul. The only saving grace is that unlike we Humans who know that all things must pass away, our animal buddies are in full command of the Infinite. To their little psyches everything is infinite and never Ends so they just don’t suffer the fears we must with our vivid imaginations. Be well and know that if anything Elvis is puzzled by your sadness. Probably is thinking “perk up Girl” and lets have some fun. Life with you is …..Wonderful, Marvelous and Super Fragelistic!

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    • judy
      July 4, 2016 @ 5:36 pm

      I can’t stand it…serene…there now I don’t feel so dunb…ah dumbb Ah stupid.

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  7. Stacy G.
    June 28, 2016 @ 3:20 pm

    I’m so sorry to hear about Elvis. The good days/bad days part is really hard emotionally.

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  8. Michaela Hutchinson
    June 28, 2016 @ 3:50 pm

    My husband and i had to put out 16 year old cat down somewhat unexpectedly last week. I’m so sorry. I can’t imagine what its like to draw this out. Good vibes headed towards kittah.

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  9. Bethany
    June 28, 2016 @ 3:51 pm

    The earrings are fabulous, and Elvis is fabulous. I think it’s ok to try to treat yourself nicely in such a sad time.

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  10. Sharon
    June 28, 2016 @ 4:39 pm

    Hugs and prayers for you and Elvis. The only thing I can tell you is just continue to love her. It will be all right. The addition looks great.

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  11. Lauren
    June 28, 2016 @ 4:42 pm

    Victoria, I say this in the kindest way possible. Stop buying earrings, stop working on the house, stop shopping CL. Instead, you and Paul should spend as much time with Elvis as possible. Nothing else will matter after her death other than the time you spent with her and what you did. It’s hard–I know, believe me, I know–but those distractions that feel so necessary now will actually hurt you terribly after she’s gone. So force yourself to stay in the moment with her and not be distracted from your pain. You will never regret it, I promise.

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  12. Melissa
    June 28, 2016 @ 6:29 pm

    Take the time you need now with Elvis. I hope that you find comfort and peace in the quiet times with her. We recently lost our almost 15 year old lab and I miss her everyday, but do find peace in knowing that she was absolutely loved in her final days. Dogs’ (cats’) lives are too short. Their only fault, really.

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  13. elaine
    June 28, 2016 @ 6:49 pm

    Ohhh how I wish I could send some of Anthony’s Rhode Island clam chowder – my cats lapped it up when nothing else appealed. If you want I will attempt to send liquids via the USPS. Just email your address (I promise I won’t drop by) or a PO box, or Paul’s work address, or the address of an anonymous stranger.

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  14. Wilma Galanos
    June 28, 2016 @ 6:49 pm

    I am praying for you. Pets are family and it is so hard when they are seriously ill.

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  15. Daring Lily
    June 28, 2016 @ 6:57 pm

    Typing through tears and sending hugs to you, and many, many kisses to Elvis.

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  16. fixitchick
    June 28, 2016 @ 6:59 pm

    Elvis has been extremely fortunate in her choice of owners/servants. May her quality of life remain good for as long as possible, and may you find peace in how well you love her.

    Tell Paul the same thing I say to my husband in his tank tops: “suns out, guns out”

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  17. Toni
    June 28, 2016 @ 7:13 pm

    of course you have a bigger picture but, one of my kitties has been puking after each meal and my husband thinks it is just because of the heat. Maybe Elvis is feeling it more keenly than usual?
    In the absence of definitive answers, always follow your heart! No regrets and Elvis will be happy!
    The ‘after’ pics are gorgeous beyond words! You and Paul should be happy with all your hard work.

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  18. Anya
    June 28, 2016 @ 8:29 pm

    Poor Elvis and poor you. Relish the time you have left and don’t ever feel like you shouldn’t be spending all your time with her! I recently lost my 4 year old dog in an accident, I never even got to say a proper goodbye. Take that time with her and you’ll never regret it. My thoughts are with you, for what that’s worth.

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  19. Cathy
    June 28, 2016 @ 8:31 pm

    Victoria, I have been thoroughly enjoying your blog for a few years now. As someone who has dedicated the better part of a day finding the exact right spot for a new picture frame, or who sometimes secretly can’t wait for gifted flowers to die because they don’t quite match the color scheme of any room in my house, you are to me a kindred spirit. What prompted me to write was your sadness over Elvis’s illness. I’m so sorry. I lost my dog last May and miss her every single day. Losing a pet can be such a profound loss. I wanted to share with you, however, that we buried our pup in our backyard and have created a beautiful garden around her, replete with a rosa sharon tree, blue hydrangeas and a memorial plague. I take such comfort in knowing she is right there with us, and it’s become a lovely spot to retreat to especially on summer mornings. When the time comes, perhaps this may ease your grief as well. In the meantime, I wish you many more memories to cherish and days to enjoy together. My best wishes, Cathy

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  20. Julie
    June 28, 2016 @ 10:09 pm

    Losing a pet is like losing a family member. Stay strong.

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  21. Amber
    June 28, 2016 @ 11:13 pm

    I am so sorry about Elvis. I am sending you virtual hugs. You just keep on brushing Elvis, reading your books and buying earrings, maybe throw in some fresh baked chocolate chip cookies in that mix, that always comforts me. Don’t worry about those things on fire, the world has the unfortunate habit of keeping on spinning even when tragedy strikes and I’m sure whatever it is can wait or be picked up by someone else. Kisses for Elvis.

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  22. Colleen
    June 28, 2016 @ 11:21 pm

    Prayers are coming your way, I know what you are going through. I lost my dear kitty Lighfoot (named because she did indeed have light feet on an otherwise tortoiseshell body) a few years ago to a stroke. She was with me for 17 glorious years. Give yourself permission to enjoy every last second of your time with Elvis. And know, in the end you will always have her in your heart.

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  23. Colleen
    June 28, 2016 @ 11:27 pm

    Oh, and I forgot to add that my hubs has the exact same thoughts about clothes that Your Paul does and has, I think, the exact same tank top from the exact same era.

    Also love the changes. The area looks amazing. What were those folks thinking??!! Holy cow!

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  24. Deborah
    June 28, 2016 @ 11:43 pm

    Sweet funny Elvis…. treasure the time you have with her…. soak her up…. cuddle, brush, hold, stroke, kiss… love…..

    oxoxo

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  25. Gennie
    June 28, 2016 @ 11:49 pm

    Victoria,
    The only thing any of us have is this day…just this day. It doesn’t matter if you are 2 or 92. Elvis is with you today, live and love her this very day. Take deep breaths to smell what your world and Elvis’ world smells like THIS DAY. It is all we have.

    My love to you as you enjoy your lovely girl each day.

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  26. Meredith
    June 29, 2016 @ 12:48 am

    I’ve been going through the stages with you, Elvis and with my own cat who has a similar cancer. My heart breaks for you and your Elvis.

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  27. Lulu
    June 29, 2016 @ 5:04 am

    VB, be kind to yourself. Don’t read sad, heavy books right now. Read lighter fare that will make you laugh here and there in spite of yourself (I am reading Midnight in the Garden of Good & Evil right now, it’s witty, suspenseful, and features some great, old (Victorian) mansions which are, if not dramatis personae, at least minor characters. And who can resist a story about Savannah?) Have a pink cocktail on hand while you’re petting Elvis. Put your feet up. Spread out all your paint chips. Rearrange your Big Ideas clippings file. Don’t forget to play some music.
    You are where you need to be, loving Elvis and she loving you back. That is really what it’s all about. Enjoy this time with her, it’s a gift.
    (From a sympatico kitty lover who has loved and lost and loved again. xxx)

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  28. Bobbie
    June 29, 2016 @ 10:54 am

    Cement. Yes.. you described how it feels.
    My thoughts are with you, Paul and your sweet girl.
    (((hugs)))

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  29. Victoria Seeber
    June 29, 2016 @ 11:15 am

    VEB I can’t even comment to you regarding Elvis. So in my usual style of hiding my head in the sand, I will divert the subject by asking you what color of white you used in the new part of the kitchen. It is hard to tell on a monitor but I think I love it!

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  30. Lois R
    June 29, 2016 @ 11:36 am

    I know a version of what you are going through. When you announced that Elvis was ill last year, I had just found out that my cat had the same cancer. I tried multiple times to write an email to you, but never could express my thoughts the way I wanted to. Our boy, Little John, was much further along than Elvis and the treatment options were not available to us. We kept him comfortable as long as we could and put him down when we thought his suffering was beyond reasonable. Within days of putting him down, we had to put a second cat down when it became obvious that we could no longer keep her comfortable after years of successfully managing her kidney disease. Your description of feeling like your brain is in cement is an accurate evaluation of how I felt at the time.

    I will be thinking of you and Paul as you go through the next stages of Elvis’ illness and the inevitable part that comes after.

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  31. Kathleen
    June 29, 2016 @ 8:48 pm

    <3 <3 <3 BREAKING MY HEART!!!! So very sorry about ELVIS. Crying my eyes out as I read your post, I wish I could give you a big hug and wave a magic wand over you… to take away all you're pain and heal ELVIS. I wish in life we didn't have to go through such horrible agonizing painful situations. I hate it when life isn't fair. Please know you are in my prayers <3<3<3
    ❤️??????❤️??

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  32. Lisa
    June 29, 2016 @ 10:40 pm

    Your redo is ah maze ing. When the time comes I hope you will remember your bestest times with Elvis. I have been down that road with one of the best/worst kitties ever. Wouldn’t trade a minute, and always remember the best times first.

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  33. Barbara H.
    June 30, 2016 @ 3:29 pm

    You, Paul and Elvis are so lucky to have each other. Loss is hard – no words for it. Just lots of love while you can.

    Your back yard is part of the house now! It looks beautiful.

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  34. Maggie
    July 1, 2016 @ 9:02 am

    I’m so sorry. About a month ago we lost our 14yo golden after months of watching him decline. The worst part, he was 100% there mentally. His body just couldn’t keep up anymore. The other worst part, the 6yo Small Dog best buddy that was left behind. One month later and Small Dog is still sad. Toby the cat is doing his best to help but Brandon (the golden) never popped out of dark corners or from under beds…chairs…couches. Keep combing Elvis and bring out the tuna. Much love to you and yours during this terrible time.

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  35. Michelle Anthony
    July 1, 2016 @ 10:37 pm

    Distract yourself however you need to and spend all the time you can with Elvis. Everything else will work out and you’ll never regret those hours you spend with her. You can do this. Hugs.

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  36. Allyson krauel
    July 4, 2016 @ 9:20 am

    I needed those earring too! But they are sold out! My darling dog of almost 14 years is fading fast. Sob! I can understand exactly what you are saying?

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  37. Sandra
    July 4, 2016 @ 1:20 pm

    Hi –
    So sorry to hear Elvis isn’t eating st times -I have an elder cat in a similar situation and I found this wonderful stuff that keeps her appetite – Recuperation by Viyo. I use it like gravy on her baby food (no teeth left) .Friend who runs a pets hospice swears by it and she was right. So I thought I would tell you about it. You can order it online.
    Hugs to Elvis & you.
    Sandra & Miss Kitty

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  38. Kristin
    July 24, 2016 @ 9:31 pm

    Help! I just bought a Victorian home (she needs a lot of love) and I’m about to start painting. I love your interior wall and trim colors. My new molding is the same as yours and the white makes it really shine. Please share the source! Thanks! Sorry to hear about Elvis 🙁

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  39. Lori Terceira
    July 27, 2016 @ 11:05 am

    I’m very sorry about Elvis and I understand what it’s like to watch your pet slowly succumb to an illness. Just yesterday we had to put down a beloved elderly pug. It was a difficult decision to make, but I know it was the best thing for her, still it doesn’t make the loss any easier. Just know you have given Elvis the very best in life, and she has always known that she has been loved.

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  40. Toni
    October 17, 2016 @ 11:05 am

    So anxious for a post with your kitchen reveal!

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